My job as a founder, it's to inject risk into the business. You can get away with certain things that other people simply can't because you own the dangless. All right, today's episode, we're going to talk about things that interest us. One thing that I tweeted out the other day, I wasn't surprised by this result, but it still made me sad. I tweeted out, I said, if you could guarantee a 7.5% real return for the rest of your life every year, guaranteed. But you can't invest in any individual stocks forever. However, you can start your own business. And I think I even said you can, but you can only invest $10,000 into that business. Or you can invest actively, you can't really buy the index, but you can invest actively and do whatever you want. Some days, maybe, or some years, maybe you'll get plus 50%, some years, you're going to get minus 50%. Which would you choose? Option A or B, 40% of my $300,000 selected option B. And you replied and you said option A all day easy. What did you select that? Well, to get 7.5%, like with no effort and you're guaranteed, it's a no-brainer. It's an absolutely no-brainer for me. Now, I've got a business, I have a lot of risk in my own business, so that might be part of it as well. Like, I have all the risk there. So let me ask you this, were you intending this to be like someone who's 21 years old, straight out of school, never invested before, has nothing else going on? Or is it just like at any point in your life? I think at any point in your life, that's still the right decision. I still turn that switch on in a second. Yeah. That's a ridiculous return. In a good way. In a consistent return, the way that would compound over time would be fantastic. And there's nothing boring about that. That's an incredible, I mean, it's boring, actually, but also an incredible thing. So yeah, would you think that the survey was going to produce?
Did you were you surprised by the ratio or? I'm surprised that the average Joe, I mean, in my followers, are probably above the average Joe in terms of income, maybe IQ, maybe not, I don't know. But for their, they're typically a higher ed. For sure. They're up there. They're very good. Like I would imagine it's a high educated coastal crowd. And so anyway, I would have thought that they would have seen the fallacy that they probably can't beat all the others, particularly the other people who have a much better advantage. And so the idea that although everyone else fails at getting this return, I in my little office in part time with just me can somehow beat all the others. And I thought that that was shocking to me, that they thought that they were exceptional at that. That's what I was surprised at.
Yeah. Well, that's pretty common. I think everyone thinks they're exceptional in some way. I mean, the thing people don't take into consideration is risk. So like they might go, well, if I just buy an video or Apple or whatever, Shopify, and the thing is in the short term, you almost certainly can. Over the next two or three years, you get lucky, pick one, pick a winner. But the rest of your life, that's the question. All right. Let's take a quick break. I got to tell you, you've ever seen those Coachella posters where it's got all the artists' names and you're like, oh my God, wow, they got, you know, Fred again and Skrillex. And that's what the HubSpot inbound conference looks like. Just listen to the speaker list that they have. I don't know how they pulled this off, but listen to this. Ryan Reynolds, Serena Williams, Cara Swisher, Matt Wolfe, Darmesh, they got Brian Halligan. They got tons of good speakers at HubSpot. Inbound, it's coming up. It's September 18th to the 20th. It's live in Boston. And it's where you go if you want to learn marketing sales, AI trends. You want to know where the puck is going so that you can be there before everybody else. Tons of great talks on stage where you're going to learn sales strategies, improving marketing tactics, but also the networking where you get to meet other people and understand what are other people in the industry doing, how are other people getting ahead. So check it out. Go to inbound.com to see the lineup and grab your tickets today.
So here's what I've done lately. I've been spending time in New York because I've got family here. And I called email, then did call outreach, and I randomly met a bunch of people who work at hedge funds. And I'm like, hey, I'm not like a competitor. You don't ever have to worry about me. I'm just a passionate, interested person. Can I just see your office? And just sit at your computer and you just show me your software? And I just want to see what you do all day. And you go to some of these offices and I would have thought they were like Wolfle Wall Street, where it's like buzzing and like the phones are ringing. It's really just a bunch. It's pretty quiet. And it's usually just like a bunch of nerds like looking at a computer screen, but they got like four screens and they've got like incredibly complicated software. And the average show is getting paid hundreds of thousands, sometimes tens of millions of dollars to be good at this one thing. And then I think about like, how is like Bobby Lee in whatever Missouri where I'm from on his Robinhood app, possibly going to have like an edge on all these resources. And these people with all these resources, they're still not that good. You know, I talked to a guy who worked at Bridgewater recently and I was like Bridgewater, I've run up Ray Dalio, aren't you guys like the best? He's like, sometimes we're the best, but the last 15 years we've sucked. We've underperformed the market. And I'm like, that's insane that 1500 employees, tens of billions or hundreds of billions that are assets, you all paid like the best there is. You still can't beat it. And so that kind of like, that's kind of where I'm coming from. Yeah, it's also like Vegas. You go to Vegas and you're on a hot streak for 30 minutes. And the longer you play, the less you're going to win, you're going to lose. You're going to lose. The house is going to win over the long term.
So people, I think, have this idea of short-term performance in the market feeling like, I can do this forever. Just like in Vegas, you can't do that forever and you will begin to lose and the same thing is true in the market. So yeah, lock it in. What's this thing about loosening the grip on the stick? Oh, yeah. So I got a drum set recently. I used to kind of want to play drums. I kind of did for a little bit. I stopped for many years and I kind of just picked it up recently. My office is a bit of a mess. So I got to find a better place for it. But right now it's in the corner. And as I've been playing, I learned this very quick lesson. And actually, it's true when I try to learn how to play guitar. I say try again, because I'm not very good at these things, but I enjoy them. Is when you're new at something, you tend to hold things too tightly. Like I hold the drum stick too tightly. I hold the neck of the guitar too tightly. And anyone who's played any instrument will understand kind of where I'm getting. What are I coming from here? I used to play drums. I know what you're talking about. Okay. So you hold this stick really, really hard. And then you fatigue faster. You don't have as much articulation on the stick. You can't get certain ghost notes and tones out of things because you're always hitting too hard and too firmly and you just, there's no finesse. And it kind of dawned on me recently that this is very, very true for most things in life. I think especially business, I kind of, some ways I feel silly, always bringing this back to business.
Anyway, I realized that like by simply loosening my grip a bit, by lightening up, you end up having better control. You end up playing better. You end up working better. You can do it longer. And you allow other things to happen that weren't possible when you're gripping so tightly. I think this is true for business. I think when you're starting a business, you have a really tight grip on things typically. And it's best at some point to loosen up a little bit and let the rest of the organization expand into itself versus you trying to control every last thing. And I run into a lot of entrepreneurs who I think have not learned how to let go of the stick. I think that that's also a young man's thing to do. Like you learn this with age. What are you saying? What are you trying to say? Well, what I'm saying is you have a couple of decades of experience and so do I. And I think that as I'm getting older, which I'm not old, but neither are you. I'm learning it is okay to loosen up. And that's what they say a lot about men. They say, oh, well, she used to be intense, but he's mellowed out.
He's mellowed out. And that's usually what they're referring to. Yes, that's a good point. Yeah, the mellowing out. It's nice though in a different realm of something to find a metaphor. And in my head now, I am kind of thinking about this, like loosen up your grip a little bit. Wait, what parts of life? Well, I'd say business. I would say also like with my kids a little bit. I would say there's a way where I kind of wanted them to do certain things a certain way. And it just creates this conflict. Like they're their own people. I'm my own person. And I want to encourage them to do certain things in a certain way, but I also got to loosen up a little bit around that and let them find their own way. And that's something I kind of learned pretty early in parenting. So there's a lot of things, but I just in general, I just feel better when I'm not gripping things so tightly. And when I look out there, on Twitter or anywhere, LinkedIn or whatever, and I'm looking at these like business stories, there's just I'm reading a lot of grip. I'm reading a lot of tension that people are trying to over optimize and paying attention to every last little thing in a way where I feel like just loosen up a little bit, like pay attention to a few things that matter and let it let things just be a little bit more.
The best example that I've experienced this in my real life is arguing with people. And so before it was like every word that I like when I learned to talk, it was like it was fight was the first was the first thing that came out. You know, like my early words where I wanted to fight. And so if I met someone with a different political perspective, it was you're wrong for these reasons that you're really stupid for that. When I lived in San Francisco, I was I was significantly more combative than I am nowadays as I I've been lucky that I was raised in Missouri and that I lived in San Francisco, lived in New York, lived in Texas. And that has shaped me a bit politically, but also that it bleeds to other points of life, which is like instead of someone saying something when someone says something that I disagree with, it's more so instead of fighting it's, well, why do you feel that way? That's a really interesting perspective. Tell me more about why you feel that way. And I think I don't know if this is just a clickbait thing, but Keanu Reeves had this quote where he was like, I used to argue with people. Now I never argue. You could say one plus one equals five and I'll say, well, I hope you have a really good day. And and that's a little bit about how how it's been where I just want to argue a bit less.
And I'll still catch myself arguing, but Dale Carnegie in this book, How to Win Influence, to how to end friends, win friends and influence people. He's got many famous lines, but one of the famous teachings is basically just don't argue with people because you know, party typically walks away happy or satisfied. And so loosening the grip for me is arguing less where it's, I'm not even going to judge you. And I'm just going to I can recognize that you think this way and I think this way. And it's cool. It's a great example actually. I hadn't thought about that, but that's another great example of just like holding on. It's not even holding on too tightly to a perspective because you can have a perspective that you really believe in, but it's it's, you know, it's like don't clench where you're not even able to listen. Now, I think the point about like being too grippy is you're you're you're it's like you're spring under tension. And if someone says something to you that you disagree with, like you're going to boom, expand and like explode, right, which is kind of what an argument can be versus just already taking some of the tension out of that spring and just like bouncing with it and listening versus exploding out of it. I think that's a big difference.
Have you ever read there's there's this term I'll have to figure out what the term is, but there's this term where astronauts go to space and they see the earth from far away. And many of them have reported to have a life changing perspective where they think to themselves. The fact that we're fighting over religion is ridiculous. The fact that we're fighting over borders is ridiculous. Now let's zoom down to the smaller things. The fact that we're fighting over someone saying something rude to us is absolutely crazy because we're all just a bunch of monkeys on this like floating thing and it's like with cars and like, yeah, and we see like this this abyss and then we're just a silly blue thing in the middle of it. And and and it's like a lot of astronauts say it changes their perspective and it mellows them out. And I think that when I read about that years ago, it kind of helped me calm down a little bit more to where you think not the stuff that I thought mattered doesn't matter.
For example, I remember when COVID happened and I was like, we're never going to concerts ever again. And then three years later, I'm like, fuck that. I forgot all about that. Do you know what I mean? Totally. Have you, have you, to that point about astronauts, have you read that great passage from Carl Sagan, the pale blue dot? What's he say? No, I mean, it's one of the most beautiful. I'm not going to say it because I want you to read it. I want you to have the experience of it. Sure, it's a paragraph. It is one of the most beautiful passages of ever right, but it's it's exactly kind of what you were talking about with the astronauts like looking back at the earth. It's all about all the things that have ever happened.
I'm going to really generalize here because I want you to read the words, but all the things that have ever happened, every leader, every religion, every point of view, every argument, every whatever, right? Beautifully and beautiful prose happened on this speck of dust, basically. I think he calls it like a moat of dust. It's such a beautiful passage and it brings tears to my eyes. And I try to read it a few times a year because it's so right. It's so spot on right. And it's exactly what you're talking about in the most beautiful poetic way, which is all the stuff that we're worried about, all these things like very few of those things matter. Although, of course, they matter in your day to day life.
So like, they're real for you, but they really don't matter that much. And it's just a good reminder that, you know, all the things we're just so fired up about. Cares. Well, it's a paradox of like caring by not caring. Why do you not like comparing this stuff to business? And afterwards, I'll tell you my reason why I think it's good. Yes. So this is an undeveloped thought of mine that's been sort of on my mind. I don't know if it's a good idea or not. So just run with me here. I'm going to kind of. This is undeveloped. It seems like every great lesson is then applied to business by someone.
So for example, a Navy SEAL learns all the stuff in the military and they come and they like then consult for companies about how to like run teams or some great coach. Coach is a great team. And then they come and they bring it to the business world. It's always like bringing it to the business world. And I'm like, what does the business world deserve? The best lessons from things that are completely unrelated in many ways to business. But why does it always come to the business world? And the main reason is why, in my opinion, is because the business world pays for that advice. It's not that it deserves the advice. It's not even that it's advice that's applicable, but that it pays for the advice.
And the way I've been thinking about it is not as this shining beacon on a hill that business deserves all the greatest things, but actually as the drain. That all these ideas drain down through business because business sort of just is willing to pay for it and listen to it and sort of have this sort of insecure in a way. So like it wants to listen to the Navy SEALs. It wants to listen to the great AA coach. It wants to listen because it's insecure in its own way. And also there's this sense of like these other places and people they know better than us. So we're going to just bow down for their advice. And I don't know, again, this is a little bit unformed, but it's something that just bugs me a little bit.
I don't know. Does that make any sense or is it just a weird idea? No, it makes sense. But my argument would be instead of the image that you've had, you just painted is you've painted an upside down triangle with all of this beautiful stuff draining down into this bad thing. Thank you. I would turn that turn that upside down and say it all is going up to this amazing thing. And here's why, because I think that whether you like capitalism or don't like capitalism, you cannot deny that it's here to stay. At worst, it's here to stay in the lifetime of everyone who's alive. Maybe America will change, maybe, maybe the rest of the majority of the world will change.
But I wouldn't bet on that happening anytime soon. Therefore, I think that capitalism and thus business building is the most practical way to manifest a dream or a reality. And oftentimes you could say, well, what about art? And I would agree with that. But at the end of the day, you're still making stuff that people want, and you're still selling tickets. You're still trying to make some type of money off of your art so you can continue doing it. Or you're just going to have a rich person who funds you. So you are able to do it. And so my opinion, business is the most practical way to actually kick a dent in the world or to manifest a vision. And so I think a business as a very like I'm very passionate about it being a little bit of a spiritual journey of like turning dreams into reality. That's an optimistic point of view, which I do understand. Here's my question. If this thing called business is absorbing all of these lessons from all of these other realms, right? And they're all like either filtering down or filtering out, but they're filtering too. And maybe I'm wrong about this. But why aren't the Navy seals asking CEOs for advice? Why? Sometimes they are if you look at like, I don't maybe they are like Jack Walsh's book, Six Sigma, like a lot of different types of organizations outside of business like view that book. I don't really like that book, but they view it as like the rules of the game. Yeah. Okay. Yeah, I might be uninformed in a sense of like what who the military is listening to and who you know, force teams are. But there's something it's like you would imagine this, this, this entity, this business thing that has absorbed everything would then be the definitive source of this wisdom. But I wonder, is it a one way street or is it a two way street? And it seems very one way. I think they're more right than you are wrong. That's for sure. It's definitely more one way. Yeah. No, I just wanted to give, I just wanted to give one example, but I was yeah, frankly, that's a nitpick example. Totally. I don't know. Again, I don't know if this is a good idea or not. It's just it's been sort of floating in my head for a bit. So it's fun to air these things out.
What was more fun early days or late days of the company? Oh man, that's a really good question. They're very fun in very different ways. So I mean, it's a bit of a cop out, but it's true. But they're fun in different ways. What's exciting about the early days is there's a certain energy that you can never capture again, which is the the there's so much more unknown. Like you're, you're starting from zero and you're building something and you don't know where it's going to be and where it's going to go and what's possible and what isn't and how long it's going to last and all those things. Now, you don't know how long it's ever going to last in a sense. But there's this there's this hope there's this possibility. There's this birth and you know, it's like boom, we're out in the world and here we are and this is an incredible thing. And that's super fun. And then you get a lot of new attention and you're kind of burst on the scene and that's exciting, really exciting.
I think what's what's hard actually is the middle. We've gotten to a place now being having done this for 25 years. It's become really fun again in a different way. But I would say like 15 years in is a different story. Because that at that point, it's like we've been doing this for a while. I don't know how much longer it's going to last. Like you're kind of in this sort of maintenance thing. Were you big enough at 15 years where you're like like payroll is not an issue? Like were you out of like any type of outside pressure where it was like things are fine. So it's like I feel weird that I'm complaining, but this feels weird. Yeah. And I'm not really complaining about it. But yeah, yeah, it's more like, you know, Scott Scott Belzky wrote a book called the messy middle. Yeah, great. I've not read the book actually, but I understand the idea of it. And it's kind of what I'm trying to get at, which is like the middle of it is like, what do we want to be now? And where do we want to go now? And are we going to be a big company? Are we going to stay a small company? There's all these opportunities that are surrounding us now and swirling around us versus when you're starting, you're just like, you're just going, you're just moving. Then you just play it place where you're like kind of evaluating. And now we're in this place where we're just sort of mellowed in a sense to your point, although we're actually getting very ambitious again, because we have this sense of like, we've been doing this so long now that like, if we took some crazy bets or made place some crazy bets and it just totally all fell apart, like, I don't want that to happen. But I'd be okay with that too. Like we're at a place where it's like, we've done plenty and we've had an incredible run. And if it all ended with a bang, because we tried some crazy stuff that didn't work, like, I'd be okay with that too.
So I feel like I'm at that place now, what I wouldn't have been at 15 years, if that makes any sense. What's your sense? I mean, you started a bunch of stuff. My sense is that, so none of my things have been as big as yours, but they've been big enough where we've had dozens or 50, 60 employees. And we got outside of the existential crisis moment where it's like, things are working. And everyone talks about focus. Focus is a very common thing. And it's something I firmly believe in. But as someone who likes to make things, for my skill set, a company outside, like maybe, let's say, 3 million in revenue or maybe maybe 5 million in revenue, I've noticed consistently, a 5 million in revenue and like 15 employees, something like that, I'm like, I don't know what to do with my hands. Like, I'm just sitting here, like, what do I do? I feel useless. And I feel like, sometimes a general behind the scenes just pointing.
And I've noticed something that I really dislike, but I think it's normal is a company ebbs and flows. And I've noticed that this ebb and flow carries over to the rest of my life where I just had a child and I'm like, I'm in this quiet time for a moment where I have to be present, whereas there's other times where you're dating or something like that. And you're like, I'm in, I'm in more mode a little bit where it's like, it's actually constantly or like, I'm on top of my game and I got to be a top my game. Same with business where it's like, we're launching this new thing, we're out fighting with the troops, we're in the trenches. And then there's other times, sometimes this, I think can last for years, maybe, where it's just like, we're just doing the same thing over and over and over again. And that period can be a little depressing, even though everything is going well, it's a very saddening period because you lack action.
It's basically like, what they say with a lot of great investors, I think Manish said this on our papaya on our last podcast, he was like, if you can watch paint dry, you're going to be a good investor. The problem with that for a lot of entrepreneurs or a lot of like go-getters is that's a really sad place to be in. Even though everything is going well, it's really uncomfortable to be in that feeling. And so have you guys had a lot of, have you had a lot where you're like, man, I just kind of unfortunately have to do nothing for maybe years? Yeah, I can totally identify with that.
And I think what you're getting at with entrepreneurs is that what you're describing is in the early days, you are very important as a founder. Then there's a point where you build an organization and then the organization is able to, in some ways, in a good way, run without you to some degree. And at that point, you kind of feel a little bit less valuable to your own thing that you made. It's a good thing, but for you, it's a good thing because it means there's some stability and you're not the bottleneck and you're not the only person that matters here anymore, obviously.
But for you personally, it feels a little bit like you've become detached from this thing that you made. And you're now further away, typically from like the creation phase and now you're more in the maintenance phase of something and you're dealing with internal politics and personalities and hiring and you've got some great people who just left and now you're going to find new people and the culture's changing. And that's a pretty tumultuous, turbulent time for a founder. And I've gone through that many times and it comes and it goes.
What I've found is that what I kind of discovered actually recently is that my job as the founder, I'm still a founder. I still started this company, I'm still in it 25 years. My job as a founder, what I've realized is it's to inject risk into the business. Most people, everyone, pretty much at your company, job is to manage risk to some degree, to keep their job, to not push too hard or too far ultimately, you can get away with certain things that other people simply can't because you own the damn place. You are the original person.
So, what I've found a lot more joy and excitement in is revisiting this idea of injecting risk. By the way, I don't think you could change that. I think for a long time, I was like, why aren't these people taking risks? I got a force of and I'm like, there you go. It's impossible. That's impossible to change. Even if you hire great CEO to replace you with CEO, like they just don't have that. They might be an incredible CEO, great executive, executing things, trains are on time, incredible. But there's that thing that's present in a founder simply because they were there from the beginning that they have an extra ounce of, it's not even that they're not better. They just have an extra ounce of latitude that allows them to take risks that nobody's going to say no to.
Maybe if you have a board, maybe someone's going to say no, but they'll still give you more latitude than a hired hand, basically in a sense. So, my sense is the way I found to return to this sort of flow versus the the ab is like, is to inject more risk, which for us means we're going to build a lot more products. Like this year, we're going to do four products. We're going to begin. We're about to start working on two products simultaneously, which we've never done before. We've never built two things at the same time.
And like this, there's a lot of stuff going on. We got different models. We got once. We got SaaS. We got all these things. We're going to do multiple versions of multiple things and different business models. And we're going to we're really off balance in a really healthy way at the moment. Because like we're doing a bunch of new stuff and that gets me excited now. It makes some people internally nervous, understandably so. It's like, well, this is different now. We're kind of off balance a little bit trying new things. But that's how I have to run the business. Otherwise, I will become bored. And at that point, it won't serve me or the business well if I'm in charge and I'm bored. That's not a good thing. For my professional life or for my main company, that's like the main nine to five thing.
For Hampton, I've not I do injectorist, but I have a CEO. And so I try to I have to like respect. I got to respect that relationship. And so yes, on my nights and weekends, I created a new website for fun. I created this website called Sam's list. It's samselist.co. Nice. And the reason I did it was I tweeted out like who's gotten accountant that they love because I just needed an accountant for something. Got like 300 replies. And I was like, wait, something's interesting here because this tweet got so many bookmarks, like a lot of people bookmark it. And someone was like, oh, I'm saving this for later to find an accountant. So I was like, this is interesting. So I spent a few months calling every accountant on the list, finding out how much they charged, what services they provide, what services they don't provide, who the ideal client is, who isn't the ideal client, whatever. And then I created a website called Samselist, where I reviewed or I like put all the information from all of my research for all these accountants, created this website. I think I got 8000 people to come in the first week. And then I started figuring out how to monetize it. And so this month, the first month that's been live, it's May 22nd when we're filming this, I think it's done 20,000 this month. And the $20,000 that I've made from that is more dopamine than let's say a million dollars a month or $2 million a month that I've gotten from other things. It's a total rush. And I love it. Why is it? Why do you think that? Why do you think that's so exciting for you?
It's a total rush because what started it's so fun. It's so fun for things that start as silly jokes, like just stupid. Like the logo that we have is a calculator that has three numbers and a Q, and it looks like Clippy. It looks like Clippy from Microsoft, like waving at you. It looks like Mickey Mouse. And I just used chat GBTS. I said make a logo that looks like Clippy, but it's a calculator. And it's so fun to take silly, jokey stuff and turn it into real things that actually solve problems. And I find that to be almost like part trolling, part like shit eating grin, like scheming. Like I love that like, isn't it? Would it be hilarious if we made this a thing? And then actually seeing it become a thing, I find to be so exciting. I also think that when you're when you have a silly idea, even if it's like a serious idea, and you start seeing customers truly like it, that's a very invigorating feeling. It's the best. And we had this internal say, we don't say it that much. We've I've said it before, and we kind of try to feel it, which is that cool wears off, but useful never does. And what you've made is something that's useful. And that is one of the most beautiful things I think you can do for humanity is to make something useful. And to have fun with it and to screw around and not like take it so seriously, this is going back to the thing. Your your grip is loose on this. You know, you're having fun with it. Yes, Chad GPT to make a logo and you're goofing around. The name is just your name. It's like, it's just have some fun. And it's a reminder that that's what this should always be like as much as possible.
It is totally valuable to do hard things. Absolutely. But not everything should be hard. There should be plenty of easy things in your life too. Things that flow, things that you have fun doing, things that don't feel hard. You don't need to pile up and collect only hard things. And so while some of your business ideas might be harder to pull off for other reasons, this one is so lighthearted and easy, it's healthy. It's good for you. And you rediscover like why you do this sort of stuff. And it's also fun. I think there's something probably I'm guessing. There's something probably in this that like, you're like, I did this by myself. Yeah, that's like the feeling of accomplishment. And I can still I can still do something by myself, like really by myself. And that's useful is very rewarding and hard to come by sometimes when we all think we need to have partners and co-founders and teams and stuff to pull things off.
Do you and your partner get along like beautifully? We get along really well. We're not like, we're friends, but we don't see each other very often. We live in the same town and we don't see each other. I see them once every, I don't know, couple months. We're very good partners. And we're friendly, but we just don't we don't hang out like our families don't hang out. It's not that we wouldn't enjoy it. We just like, we just don't. There was a there was a study where they looked at the most common reasons why couples get divorced. The most common reason was contempt and the most common the most common reason for divorce was contempt. The most common reason for staying together was you admired the other person. I hadn't heard that, but it resonates like resentment is just bad. And I think a lot of business partners resent each other actually. I think you've been in business with others. I'm assuming. Yeah, I've got the most I've had bad relationships. I'm currently in a very harmonious relationship with my co-founder Joe that I could see lasting a lifetime. What feels different about it? So when we first started together, we invested in startups together and we had a great time and he previously helped me with my old company, the hustle. I cold emailed them and he was like, Hey, if you're in New York tomorrow, just stop by the office and we could talk. And I was like, yeah, I'll be there. And I like flew out there and like hung out with them. And that's how we became friends. And then we invested in startups together. And then I was like, I took like a really formal conversation with them. I was like, Joe, I love working with you. Something I did with my wife early in our relationship when we were like thinking like, Hey, is this something that we want to like make real and like get married and have a family? And I sat down with my wife and I was like, let's just like walk through our life values. And like what type of life do we want to have? And let's see if like they kind of align. And that's okay if things change eventually. But let's just say, let's just see if the direction is similar. And so I sat down with Joe and we said, Hey, let's just outline like what sacrifices are you willing to make? What sacrifices are you not willing to make? What's a perfect day look like for you? What are you driven by? And like, for example, for me, I was like, you know, I'm driven by ego. Like it bothers me that people think I'm not good enough. So like I always want to prove that I'm as good as I think I am. Or I'm driven by money. I was like, I work only 40 hours a week. I don't really want to work more than that. I'm not willing to sacrifice traveling. I'm not going to like get out of my house often if I have a family. And he like named all of his things. And we looked at the all the things and we're like, how much money do you want to have? How much money do I want to have? We looked at all of the things and we're like, for everything that is agreed upon, awesome. For everything that's not agreed upon. Do we think that that's like a deal breaker? And we they weren't. And we were like, cool, we like did a really good job of being very honest upfront about our wishes. And now it's much easier to address like any issues we have because it's like, hey, you he'll be like, Hey, we got to get this done. And I was like, yeah, but I but he'll be like, but you told me that you don't want to like grind on a Saturday. So I'm not even gonna ask you. It's all good. We agreed to this, things like that. And that makes the relationship really nice. Is that we respect one another and we had those conversations super early on.
Do you feel like the list or the conversations you had about that? Turn out to be true? Like, are those really the things that that you guys share together? Or was that sort of what you imagined you would share? Yeah, for example, for the money, let's just do the money one. That's a really easy one. We actually shared each other's personal finances with each other. And interesting. Yeah, we were like super transparent. We're like, here's all of our finances. What matter? Like, I would like to go here one day. Where would you like to go? It's like, all right, well, to go there, we're going to be like, let's say that my goal is less than your goal. Let's hit your goal then. And if we need to hit your goal, here's maybe what the numbers would need to look like. And here's what we'd have to make. So like that, you know, is that like something we both agree upon? Do you want to be like, we were very transparent with each other. That's wild. I mean, this is, I know we, you and I were talking on Twitter a little bit about like, how I'm super uncomfortable talking about money. And you're like sharing your personal finances with your founder and kind of it's interesting. Wait, you don't do that with your partner. You don't do that with your partner? Like, well, you guys, your guys, finances are probably so tied together. But you know, they are tied together. I mean, yeah, basically all of our, you know, essentially the vast majority of our net worth is tied in our business. So we know what our distributions are and all that stuff. But yeah, we don't, I mean, we don't talk about that ever. But it's interesting. Like, also like, you're Midwesterner. I'm a Midwestern nerd. Like, I feel like my thing is like, don't talk about it. I don't know why like, it's ingrained in me. Were you, were you like at a one point or did you change or?
I was always open about it because I saw my family like that. And I was like, that's so unhelpful for me because you're not telling me you're not giving me a roadmap. You're not, I don't have anything to strive for because I don't even know what's possible. My father owned a produce brokerage company, which like, it's like a small business, but they sell like, let's just say over the course of his 30 year 20 year career, he sold like a 150 million dollars worth of onions. But like, I'm like, how much is a lot of money? Is a lot of money like 50 grand a year or like $300,000 a year? Like, I have no, I have no clue about this. And so I, and I always regretted that that they weren't open with me. And so I was like, I'm just going to be open about it.
It's switching by my folks never talked about money. I don't still to this day, don't know if they're middle class wealthy. I don't, I don't really know your kitty bee. Do you really, you have no idea. That's weird. Do you support them? I have supported them. I gave them a big chunk of money at one point, but they like, regretfully took it. They didn't really want it. Then I don't think they needed it. And I think I'm going to get it back when they passed. Like, they're not going to use it, you know, they've always been very frugal. We don't talk about it. My dad was an entrepreneur, worked for himself, like a small business owner.
He was a trader. So he traded stocks on his own. He wasn't a broke. I think he started out as a broker for a little bit, but then he was on his own individual investor, basically. I think he did well for a while. He didn't do well for a while. I think, you know, that's, that's a tough road in a lot of ways. He wasn't a day trader, but there wasn't anything we couldn't have, but we also didn't strive for anything that we couldn't afford. It just, I don't really know. Parents have always been careful with this. So I kind of absorbed that like, just don't really talk about it. And it didn't limit me though. It's not like, I just felt like we were, everything was sort of fine as how it felt to me.
What are you going to do? What are you going to do with your kids? I struggle with this. Like my parents never really talked about it. We don't talk about it, but we certainly act differently than my parents are growing up. You know, we own a few homes, you know, we've a couple of nice things. So it's like, it's, it's, it's kind of obvious that like, we can afford things and do things. But we just don't, we haven't talked about it. I think that's, that's an incredibly Midwestern and a, incredibly more traditional older set of values. My family had very Midwestern values. And I think a lot of those values are great. Hard work, don't complain.
Don't, don't make people work for you. like a, like, I remember going to like a restaurant and like we ordered a pizza and they brought us like a chicken salad and I'm like, we're not going to steal. We're not going to inconvenience you. Whatever. Just giving it, like, I'll delete that. yeah Yeah. That's like the attitude. I never sent a dish back in my life. Not in a million years. Not ever, ever, ever. Not in a million years. Yeah. And so like, I actually think some of those values are great. I think there's many other values that are like, I don't like using this word because it's too loaded, but toxic, bad.
There are a lot of values that are bad. For example, I think the stoicism that Midwesterners tend to have that you definitely have, I think that it's gotten you to where you wanted to go in a traditional success perspective, but also like not being transparent with certain people. I think I just don't want my family to be left wanting more when I'm gone in the sense of like, I wish that they were more open with me. For example, I've not seen photos of my family really when they were younger or like, I don't have any your parents. I mean, yeah, my parents, my parents were young. I'm like, and I don't even know their grandparents's name. I don't know. I had to do 23 of me because I'm like, I want to ask them what my heritage was. They would just go, we're white. I'm like, yeah.
Yeah. Okay. But what flavor? Like, come on, I need some more. And so or I had to do ancestry.com in order to understand like who my grandparents were. Like, what are you guys hiding? And I turns out I found out that an uncle is actually my grandmother was married previously. And I'm like, why don't you guys tell me this? And they're like, oh, we didn't want to bring it up. You know, like little things like little things like that. And I'm like, that's weird. Just like, just discuss it. Just just tell me. Yeah. Right. That's weird. So anyway, I think that is actually bad though. And I pray that I don't fall into that into that trap.
And so that's why with my family, I've been overly transparent with a lot of things. And I just think that that like lightens, lightens things up a little bit. I admire that actually. And this is something I actually also admire about David. I'm sure you wouldn't mind me telling you this. David used to when we were in Chicago, when we had an office, he used to drive to work in like incredibly fancy cars. Yeah. And my Midwestern sensibility is like, dude, don't do that. He's like, why not? I'm like, my sense was like, it just it sends a weird message. He's like, what's the message? I mean, everyone knows like, everyone here who works, like they know we're doing well. Like, why would I hide that from me? I agree with you on that one, by the way. And I it's so funny because he's right. Have you seen the big Lebowski? He goes, you're not wrong, dude. You're just an asshole. That's a damn thing. So in my mind, I'm like, but I still struggle with it just because of how I was raised and how I was brought up and the imagined messages, like the whole point is like, I'm imagining that everyone's looking at that and going, what an asshole.
It's like, most people probably don't care. They don't care. They know this. They know the score. They're fine with it. And if they're not, that's their problem. Like David's point is like, if they have a problem with me driving a nice car, that's their problem. It's not my problem. Like, I've earned this. I enjoy this car. I buy this car because I like the car. I'm not going to hide the car. And he's right. But I just have a hard time with it still, not anymore with him. This is like way back in the early, early years. But it still is something that's in there. There's a residual like struggle with that degree of honesty around money in a similar way that people like, you know, in a merry like, who'd you vote for?
Like, I don't talk about who I vote for. Same. I think just Rock has a great bit on that. It's so funny. Like when I see someone with a political bumper sticker on their car, I'm like, you're insane. You're a crazy person. Yeah. And they're probably like, why? I like this guy or I like that guy or I like hers. Like, why am I have to have to hide my point of view? And they're right too. You know, so deep down, your point of view is healthier. I still have a hard time with it, not and that's probably my problem.
Or maybe it's not. I don't really know. I don't really know. It's very interesting. Do you want to change or do you not care? Well, I think the truth is my kids have a, or at least my son who's older, my daughter's five. She doesn't recognize any of the stuff. Yeah. But my son does. And my son's really into like, it seems to be into expensive things. He like has this craving for expensive things. So I mean, he's got to know what's going on to some degree. He's not an idiot. Do I want to sit him down and go, Hey, son, we've got this and we've got that.
And they're like, that isn't how I would handle it. It'd be more like, I've worked hard. Here's what we have. We have some things we're going to enjoy. These things we share, these things with friends. This is not just our stuff. And that's kind of how I treat, for example, the house thing, when I renovate a nice old house and I make it better, like, it's our house, but it's also all of our friends house that free people are free to stay there as much as they want, visit as much as I have this property in Wisconsin, this old farm house, 160 acres, it's beautiful piece of land. I've been working on it for years. My friends use it more than I use it. I don't use it anymore. I'm not even around there.
My friends can just go up there whenever they want and use it. So it's about like, we're fortunate, clearly fortunate and lucky, and a big part of this is you want to share these things. You're not fortunate if you hoard the things, then there's something I think kind of wrong about it, in my point of view. So share as much as you can, share these experiences with other people, and we're fortunate. That's kind of how I left it at this point. I don't know. We'll see. The thing that I tell my friends and family is I try to let them know. And this is something that I couldn't grasp earlier on in my career. I refused to admit this one thing, which was luck is real. And it has played such an important part of any type of financial, like just meeting the woman who you're spending your life with.
Like, just the fact that we are in the same place at the same time, luck is such a bigger component than I ever would have been willing to admit years ago. And I think that what I'll explain to my children is like, look, I worked hard, but I frankly didn't work harder than many other people. I'm smart, but I'm not that much smarter, if at all, than the average person. The truth is, is that I worked hard, I had a skill, but I got like 50% of luck was like, was like part of that, or maybe even more than 50%. Luck is such a huge, huge component. And I hope that I can put that on my family to realize that luck was real. It just happened to work out because some timing thing worked out. Like, let's say you started a business and you surged during COVID. You're like, dude, I just kicked ass because something I had nothing in, which I did, our business killed it during COVID. I'm like, I didn't know that was going to happen. That was just total luck. Or you know what I mean? Like things like that. It's absolutely real. And I need and I hope my family will understand that 100% with you. And I think it's way more than 50%. I mean, all the way back to you didn't choose your parents. You didn't choose anything. All right. You didn't choose your mind. How did you become the kind of person who is the way you are? Like, there's a million inputs, a billion inputs that you don't know about all the things.
What is it? I don't regret too strong a word, but one of the things I regret most in my career is getting on stage at startup school. So this is like, why combinators startup school years ago. I forget when I was invited to speak. I was only invited once because I was pretty anti-raising money. Yeah. I thought you were like the opposite of their ethos. I was, but Paul was kind enough to ask me to come up on stage and give a talk. But you and Paul seem quite similar to be honest. Well, I appreciate that. I mean, I have a lot of admiration for his ability to put ideas together and think things through what he's built. But he invited me to the stage and there was a question from the audience about luck. Someone was like, do you believe in luck? I'm like, hell no. I don't believe in luck. Wow. And I was such a prick. How old were you? Early, mid-20s, mid-20s, I think it was. And I was just such a prick, but a young punk prick, you know, kind of like, and it's so embarrassing. But a lot of things are you look back on like poetry, you wrote in college, like, oh my God, I wrote that or whatever. Like whatever it is. And you just realize that's part of growing up is totally misunderstanding the world and your position in it. And then hopefully, hopefully, you get to the place in your world where you develop a bit more and you have some self-reflection and you can call yourself out of the bullshit that you thought. But also like, that's who you were at the time and that's that.
这是什么?我不认为“后悔”这个词过于强烈,但在我的职业生涯中,我最遗憾的事情之一就是在创业学校上台。这是多年前的事情,当时是 Y Combinator 的创业学校。我忘记了我什么时候被邀请去演讲,我只被邀请过一次,因为我当时非常反对筹资。是的,我那时确实和他们的理念完全相反。但保罗还是很友好地请我上台发表演讲。不过,说实话,我觉得你和保罗其实挺相似的。嗯,我很感激听到这个。我非常钦佩他把想法组合在一起并深思熟虑的能力以及他所创建的东西。但他邀请我上台,当时观众提了一个关于运气的问题。有人问,你相信运气吗?我说,绝对不信。我不相信运气。哇,那时候我真是个混蛋。你当时多大了?二十出头,二十出中吧。当时我真是个混蛋,一个年轻的混蛋,你知道吗?回想起来真的很尴尬。但很多事情都是这样,比如你大学时写的诗,回头看时会觉得天啊,我居然写过这个或者别的什么东西。你会意识到,这都是成长的一部分,完全误解了世界和自己在其中的位置。然后希望,希望你能在自己的世界中发展得更成熟一点,有一些自我反省,并能识别出自己曾经的无稽之谈。但这也正是当时的你,过去的事情就过去了。
Last thing I wanted to ask you about was this staying off versus staying up. You said, imagine all the things you felt you were falling behind on if you didn't learn about them last year. But it really have mattered if you started today instead. Watch out for the trap of must know now. What's that mean? Right now, this is like in the AI world we're in right now. Everyone's throwing like in my 4U feed in Twitter, it's like 10 things you got to know or you're falling behind. It's like, this, this, this, this, everyone's falling behind. Meanwhile, this thing is brand new and moving fast with any human can pay attention. Like, I just keep seeing these stories about like, if you don't know this and they're doing that and if you're not on top of this, it's like, no, it probably doesn't matter that much. And all the things that if you would have read that feed a year ago that you were supposed to know, it wouldn't have mattered that much if you didn't. Most things, some things would be handy to know, but like, it probably wouldn't matter that much if you started now instead or waited a year in some cases.
One of the things I was doing for a while, I'm not doing it anymore, but I should go back to doing it again. This is actually easier to do during the pandemic was to go back. And so, so today is, is May 22nd, 2024 is to go back and all the podcasts I listened to and listen to May 22nd, 2023. So listen to podcasts that are year old. And during the pandemic, it was great because you hear all these experts talking about this and talking about that and everyone's so certain of everything. And you go back and listen to like, man, we were so wrong about so many things and so many of the things we were worried about never happened anyway.
And this political issue and that political issue, and if this guy gets in office, this is going to happen, if they get in office, this is going to happen. Turns out very, very few things actually happened. And it's really a nice exercise to go back and listen to old podcasts and old interviews of substance and realize that like, there's some stuff that was right, some stuff that was wrong. But man, the sense of urgency in these podcasts is so misplaced because most things don't need to happen right now. You don't need to be up on this right now and you shouldn't feel bad about not being on the cutting edge of X, Y or Z, especially an edge that is recutting itself and resharpening itself every few months.
So that's what I'm saying. I try to stay a bit out of things. I don't want to be on the edge of things. I like what things settle in a little bit more before I really start to dig in. Do you read any biographies? A few. I've read a few. I really love the idea of biographies. I have a hard time reading long books. Yeah. And most of the biographies tend to be very long. I've got like a limit where it's like 500 pages or less. But I'll do a long one every once in a while. But I read a fair bit, not because I'm in a competition. It's just an hour and night is typically a book a week. And I read a lot of biographies. I like business biographies. I love history.
所以这就是我的意思。我尽量保持一点距离,不想总是站在风口浪尖上。我喜欢等事情稍微稳定下来再深入了解。你读传记吗?读过一些。我很喜欢传记这个题材,但我很难读完长篇幅的书。是的,而且大多数传记 tend to be 很长。我一般只读500页以下的书,不过偶尔也会读一本长篇的。但我还是读了不少书,不是因为我在比赛。而是每晚读一个小时,一周就能读完一本书。我读了很多传记,特别是商业传记。我喜欢历史。
So a lot of the World War II leaders, a lot of the American like titans of industry, a lot of just random people. I love biographies. And I have this process of what I do. I've got this spreadsheet where if I only read on Kindle and anytime I see something interesting, I highlight it. And at the end of the book, I'll like insert, I'll create a timeline. Here's where they're born. Here's where they died. And then anything that I highlighted that happened in this year, that happened in this year. And then what I do is I go to this website called newspapers.com. Newspapers.com has archived pretty much every newspaper ever back into it back until like the 1600s. And what I like to do is let's say I read this biography about Ted Turner. Ted Turner is the guy who started CNN. He was a fascinating guy to me. Or let's actually explain owner in the United States. Biggest one. Yeah.
And he's done a lot of fascinating things. And the reason why I used newspapers.com is I like to go back to my Kindle and my spreadsheet. And I see, all right, in this year, he decided that he wanted to buy land. You know, I'm going to go read a newspaper article that wrote about him during that period. And I want to see what he said about his interests, why he's doing it. And like, did he say it? Like, for example, maybe he'll say like one day I hope to own like 5,000 acres turns out he owns millions and millions and millions of acres.
And so I like to read what the predictions were as well as what the people were saying about the person at the time. So you don't get revisionist history. And what you notice when you do this is there's often times that you'll read a biography and you'll think this was obvious that this person was going to do this or there are who wouldn't have predicted that this was going to happen. And or here's another example. World War II, Churchill was like basically he was like the world's going to end. Like we are going to die. The world's over. We felt that way during COVID. But if you read a lot of history, there's been many times where we have felt this exact same feeling.
And we had this exact same prediction. You know, I remember I recently read JFK's book and like with the Cuban Missile Crisis, it was like the world's over. And I go into newspaper.com and I'll go and read what the predictions are. And what you notice is that people are wrong more than they're right. And so what you're saying about things moving too fast, I read Henry Ford's biography about cars or Henry Ford's biography. And so I got interested in cars and I went and read like what people were saying in 1912 when the Model T was coming out.
And like the predictions are just ridiculous. And it's so funny that you don't reiterate at your point, you don't actually have to be that fast to pounce on certain things. It's really quite fascinating to put this in perspective. The Ford came out with the Model T I think in 1912 or 1916. So the internet right now is something like 30 years old. So that is basically like how old would you say the internet is or like the modern Ed Day internet? The commercial internet. Yeah, like 95, 96 is when like, you know, really Mozilla or Netscape kind of came out and really kind of made it happen. It's basically basically it's older than that because it's a research thing. Yeah, commercially.
Yeah, 35 years. Let's say it's basically like a car company in 1940. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. And so what's really fascinating is to like read all these biographies and use newspaper.com. It's one of my favorite things to use and to see what are interesting predictions and how have they come true because I already know the answer. But I want to know what were they saying at the time. And so that's my version of what you do with 2023's podcast. I love that. I didn't know that site existed too. That's fascinating. There's an X account I follow called like pessimists archive. I love that one. It's a great one to follow and just, you know, like, and the thing is, the thing that's a little bit interesting about right now, the time we're in, is that there's so many people saying so many things all wearing the expert uniform.
Some people are experts like there are experts in this world, but many people act replay as one based on just their ability to communicate on platforms. And there's just so much certainty layered into their suggestions and requirements and requests and demands. But it's just it's very healthy to go. Every time you see that, every time there's like a you must, I always buy, I haven't go probably not. Like the more forward they are about being certain and right about something, sort of the less interested I am in the short term. And I'd rather just sort of stand back and see how it all plays out.
And at the end of the day, you know, there's plenty of opportunity in a lot of different areas. You don't need to just pounce on everything as it's happening. And in many cases, it's best to wait a little bit and see how things settle out. I mean, I just think about like with AI, like all the companies that began to implement AI stuff early on. And then open AI is just like wipe them out in a lot of ways for a lot of different reasons. And when you build on other people's platforms, you're very, very much at risk of things changing, tectonic plates shifting very quickly.
You might have been better off waiting and seeing how things shake out. So anyway, who knows? I wanted you to come on here and just talk because I've read your work for years. I've been a fan of yours for years. I've seen you do a bunch of interviews. And I just wanted someone told me this guy named Dylan just said, you should just ask people what's interesting to them. And that's what I wanted to do with you, because you're an interesting person. And I respect your opinion on so many things.
And so I appreciate you just coming on and just riffing with me and just telling me what's intriguing to you. And it's been a lot of it's been very valuable for me just to see how you think and what grabs your attention. Well, thanks for the invitation. It was really fun. And as I mentioned earlier, I just I want to make useful things. And hopefully this is a useful conversation for us and for anyone listening. So thanks for inviting me. It was a real pleasure. All right. That's the pod.