People think invention takes all this time, but you only need two hours once a month. The thing is, once you have one good idea, it often takes years to express that. So you had the idea to have a newsletter. I know some of the history of your newsletter. You've been working on the expression of that idea for years now. Jeff and Amazon had ideas like, let's have prime shipping. Prime is still getting better and still being worked on. It's a 20-some-year-old idea. You know, the Kindle, a decades-old idea now, still getting better. The point here is, you don't mean very many good ideas to be seen as tremendously inventive.
["The Time of the Year"] Today, my guest is Ethan Evans. Ethan is a former vice president at Amazon, executive coach, and course creator focused on helping leaders grow into executives. Ethan spent 15 years at Amazon, helped invent and run, prime video, the Amazon App Store, prime gaming, and Twitch Commerce, which alone is a billion-dollar business for Amazon. He led global teams of over 800, helped draft one of Amazon's 14 core leadership principles, holds over 70 patents, and currently spends us time, executive coaching and running courses to help people advance in their career, build leadership skills, and succeed in senior roles.
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"The Fed Like, do they have an unfair advantage that they had more time? You know, but I was very hopeful that the advice would resonate that way because I put a lot of work into simplifying it and making it really easy to understand and follow. So I'm very pleased it has, but I was hopeful it would do so well. Well, I will say sometimes they keep growing. So this isn't necessarily the terminal point for the post. The final position, yeah. Okay, so for people that haven't read this post or maybe for folks that have maybe could use a refresher, let's spend a little time here. Could you just briefly describe this idea of the magic loop that you wrote about? Yeah, absolutely. So the magic loop is how to grow your career in almost any circumstance, even with a somewhat difficult manager. It does assume that you're working in some environment, you know, normally as an entrepreneur or with a boss.
But the basic idea of the magic loop is five steps and they're very easy. The first one is you have to be doing your current job well. It's not possible to really grow your career if you're not considered at least performing at a solid level. Now it doesn't mean you have to be the star on the team at this point, but what you can't have is your boss wishing that you were different. Like, oh, you know, Ethan's not very good. So you have to talk to your manager and find out how you're doing and address any problems. So step one is do your job well. Then step two is ask your boss how you can help. You know, speaking as a manager and I've talked to hundreds of managers, very few people go and ask their manager, what can I do to help you? What do you need?
And so just asking sets you apart. And it begins to build a relationship that we're on the same team that I'm here as a part of your organization to make you successful, not just myself. Step three is whatever they say, do it. So you dig a big hole if you say, what could I do to help you? And they say, well, we really need someone to like take out the trade sheets today. And you're like, oh, I didn't mean that. I wanted exciting work. I don't want to do, you know, sort of this maintenance work or whatever. So do what they ask, help out, even if it's not your favorite work. Once you've done that though, and maybe you do that a couple times, the fourth step is where the magic comes in. You go back to your manager and say, hey, I'm really enjoying working with you. I'm wondering, is there some way I could help you that would also help me reach my goal? And whether that goal is to change roles or get a raise or get a promotion, you say, you know, my goal is I'd really like to learn this new skill.
Is there something you need that would also help me learn this new skill? And the reason this works is managers help those who help them. It's just human nature. We all do that. Generally, they're very open to meeting you halfway and saying, sure, you know, I need this. We can rearrange it. We can find a way to meet your goals over time. Now, for step four to work, you do have to know what is your goal. So you have to be clear on what it is you want. Well, that part's up to you. And then step five is the easiest step of all. It's just repeat. So like lather rins repeat with your shampoo. Step five is once you're working with your manager towards your goal and discussing where you're going and you're helping each other, the magic of the loop is just go around and around.
I was going to ask you why is it that you call it the magic loop? Also, we kind of dive right in, but what is the goal of this? I guess it's pretty clear maybe at this point if just this helps you advance in your career, but whatever you want to share along those lines. Yeah, okay. Very fair. So I called it the magic loop because I pioneered it with my audience a few years ago. And it worked so well that people were writing back in and saying, how do I turn this off? Like I'm in over my head now, my boss has asked me to do all these cool things and I feel like I can't catch up and I've already been promoted once and I need time to like digest it. And it just seemed like it worked like magic. It worked in almost every circumstance. There are of course exceptions where you have very exploitative managers who are like, oh, it's great, you're working harder. Keep doing that.
I won't do anything for you. But those are rare. And then the purpose, yeah, it's to help you get satisfaction in your career. A lot of people are unhappy with their jobs. Many people want to move up a level or get paid more, not everyone.
Some people want to change what they're doing, they're bored. This is a path to all of that because it's forming a partnership with your leadership to say, look, I'll help you, but I need you also to help me. And most good managers are very open to that. When we were working on this, one of the piece of feedback I had was, I feel like I could just tell my manager, hey, I want to grow in my career. What can we work on to help me get there? And your feedback was like, most managers are not that good and not that thoughtful about their employees' careers. Can you just talk a little bit about that?
Because people may be hearing this and be like, why do I need to do this? This seems like a lot of work. You know, if you have a great manager, you may not need to do nearly as much formality. They may have given you good feedback so you don't need to ask for feedback. They may have offered you opportunities to step up and you've said yes to some and maybe no to others. That's fantastic.
I designed a magic loop for the people who either don't know what to do or their manager is either not that good or just very busy. Remember, lots of managers have great intentions to help their employees, but they get busy with their own lives, their own work, all the things they're focused on, even also their own career. The manager is often busy thinking about their own needs.
And so they just, they mean to get to you next week and next week drifts on for a year. What has come up since this has come out that you would want it either at two or tweak or help people better understand? I imagine a lot of, there's some criticism. I imagine there's a lot of yes, yes, yes. This really works.
Two things I'd love to clarify. The first is many people ask me, why do I have to do this? Shouldn't my manager notice what I'm doing? Shouldn't my manager help with my career? Shouldn't my manager be planning for me? And what I say about that is what your manager should do and $4 will get you a cup of coffee at Starbucks.
The point of this loop is it's in your control. It is true that a good manager would do all those things I just mentioned, but not all managers are good. And some of them need some help. And the thing I would just say about the magic loop is it's in your control. And so you can be sort of upset that your manager isn't perfect, but move on from that and take control of your own situation. That's the first thing I'd say.
The other big extension I would make is look, if you are a manager or a leader of any type, you can initiate the magic loop from your side. So you can talk to your employees and say, hey, what are your career goals? Would you like to form a partnership where you step up to new challenges and I help you get to your goals? I had a lot of success forming this kind of partnership with my employees, where as they saw growth and success, they really leaned in and like, oh, the system works, you're actually investing in me.
Now I'll work extra hard and I'm like, yes, and we can grow your team or grow your opportunity. And it was very win-win. So I'd give people a little bit of social proof. You mentioned some of the folks you've worked with on this. Can you share some stories or stats or anything to help people understand how helpful this ended up being to folks you've worked with?
Yeah, absolutely. I'll tell one story from each end of the spectrum. And what I mean there is entry-level people and then sort of high-level executive leaders. I had an entry-level person write me back and say, look, when I learned about the Magic Loop, I was at a company and not doing very well.
I started applying it. They offered me a $30,000 raise and a bigger job. And I turned it down because I got hired at this other company that was offering me even more. And I went there and they've promoted me also. And he was one of the people who wrote in and said, his exact words were, a year ago I was made redundant.
So he's in the UK, redundant is their word for laid off. A year ago I was made redundant. I got this first job and I got an offer for an increased salary. And then I got the second job. And I got an increase when I joined that was even bigger. And he was in that situation of like, now I need to sort of slow down and digest all of that. On the complete other end, one of my best people I ever worked with joined my team at Amazon is what we would call an SDE2, which in Amazon is a level five employee.
He grew with me kind of following this process to a senior engineer, then he switched to management and ran a small team. Then he became a senior manager and he relocated with my organization. He opened a new office and another city was eventually promoted to director running his own office of a couple hundred people. And this was over the course of about eight years. He went from a mid-level engineer to an executive with a team of 800 people. We had this, now he was a very hard worker, but over the eight years we just saw all this progress. And then eventually he moved on, he founded his own startup, sold that and now works as an executive vice president at one of the major sort of online banks.
And so, you know, his career in some sense has exceeded mine, but during that eight year span, he just grew so much. And this is the process we followed. Wow, those are excellent examples. What levels does this help you with? At what level is this most useful and does it kind of tape around it? I don't know if you get to VP level, do you still try using Magic Loop?
So I think it works anywhere from the start of your career to pretty far into it. I think at my level, I finished my career as a vice president at Amazon. It does Peter out in the sense of the active. And what I mean by that is you're still doing the same thing, but you don't have to talk about it. Your managers are expecting you to step up and recognize challenges. They're expecting you to ask for resources when you need them. And you don't sort of have this level of explicit conversation around what can I help you with. They're expecting you to anticipate what's needed.
So in the newsletter we did together, I wrote about how over time you go from asking your manager, how can I help to suggesting to your manager, these are some things I see that seem like they need to be done. Would you like me to do them? To just seeing what needs to be done and sort of keeping your leader in the loop and saying, hey, I noticed that we have this problem, I fixed it, I noticed we have this opportunity, I've started program against it.
I think at the executive level, it's much more you being proactive and just sort of keeping your leader in the loop. I think in the post, the way you described this step is this is advanced mode, don't jump straight to this. Don't just start suggesting things because you may get it wrong. Yeah, well, it's all a matter of rapport and trust. A huge part of career success is how much trust you have mutual respect with your leadership. When they get to their confident that you're gonna make the right decisions, their confidence will let you go. But yeah, when you're brand new or you're new to a manager, if you just jump in, you may either not work on the things they value or even find yourself working across purposes and that isn't the right place to start.
Awesome, okay, just to close out in this conversation. Maybe just you touch on this, but why is it that you think this is so important and effective? Why do you think this works so well? People may not recognize like I see, this is the key to this. Well, I think it's two things. First, I mentioned how rare it is. Managers, how rare it is for managers to be offered help. If you're a manager, you'll recognize this. If not, feel free to talk to any manager you know, whether you're own or somebody else.
Ask them how much they worry and how much they feel overwhelmed and wish someone would give them a hand. Management can be a lonely job because you feel like you're responsible for everything. You know, so having an ally, it's just a huge weight off people's shoulders. And then I think a lot about social engineering. The social engineering here is just the simple, you help me, I'll help you. Like, it doesn't have to be exploitative. It's just we help those people who help us.
And that's built in this sort of human survival. And I think this loop works so well because it's just leaning a little bit into that behavior. On so many relationships with managers are oppositional. Oh, you tell me what to do. And I kind of, I'm kind of like a kid in high school who's trying to figure out how do I skip as many classes as possible and turn in as little homework and still get by with a D. That relationship won't build your career.
Some people approach their jobs as my goal is to do the least I can and still collect my paycheck. That's an approach if you're okay with like where you are. It's not what I coach though. I assume people want to grow. Okay, so maybe just as a closing question for people that are listening and want to start putting this into practice, slash or stuck in their career and are just like, okay, I see here's something I can do. Could just again just summarize the loop briefly.
Sure. So step one, make sure you're doing your current job well. The way I explain this is when you go to your manager and ask, what could I do to help? You don't want their answer, even if they don't say it quite so bluntly to be, do your effing job. Like you need to be doing that already. So be doing a good job. And unfortunately, a good job is in the eyes of your manager in this case. You may think I'm doing great work, but if your manager doesn't, they're the ones sort of you need to build as an ally here. Once you have that, go ask how you can help, do whatever your ask, and then go back to your manager and suggest or ask, I would like to meet this goal. Can I keep helping you? Or what could I take on that you need that would also help me meet this goal?
And that's where you start to try to bring your two sets of aims together. What do you need done? But how can I get to my goal and let's do those things together? And then you just repeat this loop. You build trust, you build the relationship. And with all good managers and even a lot of moderate managers, they appreciate the help so much, they really lean into that. I think there's two really important elements of this that you haven't even mentioned necessarily that I think are part of the reason this works so well. One is this forces you and your manager to identify the gaps that are keeping you from the next level, which a lot of is like, it's often vague and then you get to performance review and then your manager's like, you're still not good on this and this and that.
And you're like, you never told me that that's the things you're looking for for me to get promoted. So I think there's this implicit, like here's what you need to work on to get to the next level, which I think is part of step four. And then you actually detaching this that it's important to share your goal to your manager. Here's what I want. I want to get promoted. A lot of times they don't know that and you helping them understand here's what I want, help me get there and go as long way. So there's a lot of things. Yeah, managers often fall into the trap. They chose to become managers. So they assume one of two things about you.
They either assume that you want to keep doing exactly what you're doing forever, just maybe make a little more money. So you're an artist, you want to keep drawing forever. You're a lawyer, you want to keep writing contracts forever. Or they assume that, hey, I became a manager, I'm very proud of my career, that must be what you want. And these assumptions are natural, right? We tend to view by default that like our path is great and everyone would want to be us.
Now, of course, some good managers don't do that, but if you clarify and express your goals, you remove that ambiguity. I actually had a period in my career where I specifically did not want to get promoted. I was very happy where I was and I just wanted to keep doing this awesome IC role. Is that something at all you see where people are just like, I'm good, I don't need to get it promoted and then is this helpful in that in any way? Or is it like not as big a deal?
So first, I reached a point in my career where I was no longer pursuing promotion either. And I wanted to do other things. And so I've lived that myself and I've used the same loop, but I used it to go do what I wanted to say, this is now what I want and how do we get there? How do we create a role where I'm adding value appropriate to my level, but I'm doing this other work, it's fun, I moved into gaming and I really wanted to do that. Second, I think it is still helpful because there's something you want, probably. Maybe you want to work on different kinds of projects or maybe you want to work with a different higher performance team or maybe you want to rebalance your life and say, hey, I love what I'm doing, but how can I be a star performer for you but within these boundaries?
So if you truly have, the perfect job is just as it is, you may not need the magic loop, but I know so few people if you're like, nope, there's absolutely nothing I could improve about my role. Yeah, I think that your point of view, your goal doesn't have to be promotion, it could be work on a different part of the org, try something totally, maybe transition to a new function that could be pretty cool. Awesome. So along the same lines of career progression, you work with a lot of senior manager types, kind of the level of like L7 and one M2-ish and you share with me that one of the most frustrating parts of their job and that specific portion of their careers, they get stuck at that level and they don't move up and it becomes really annoying and they're not sure how to break out of that. What advice do you share with folks like that that may be listening? Yeah, so it's common to get stuck there and there are a few reasons for it. First, there are a lot of senior managers. If you think of your average director, they may have six to eight reports, how many more directors are needed? So there's a choke point. Second, that choke point is worse than the current economy. And in the past, maybe a lot of companies, Amazon, Google, Apple, et cetera, were growing very rapidly. And so it wasn't just you were waiting for some other director to leave, the teams were getting bigger.
I experienced this at Amazon where over a nine year period, I went from managing six people to 800. And so I went from a senior manager all the way to a vice president. And I described, it's some sense just riding the elevator. Like the elevator was going up and as long as I managed to stay on it, I was going to arrive at vice president. But the other thing that causes people to get stuck is the difference between a senior manager and a director is kind of how you lead and the work you're doing. And you can get as far as senior manager by being really strong in your function and being really good at getting things done. As a director, it becomes much more, and as a VP beyond that, it becomes much more about influence, coordination with others, and letting go of sort of being in all the details yourself.
And so senior managers really have to change some behavior. I often reference the book by Marshall Goldsmith, what got you here won't get you there. Not only because it's a great book classically on this problem, but because the title tells the story, all the great traits that got you to this one level kind of won't get you to the next level where you're more expected to be thinking in strategic terms, thinking longer term. So to someone that may be in that role today and they're not moving up, is there anything they can do? This point about just like, there's no roles for you. Like there's only so much you can do there. Is the advice just like wait until an opportunity arrives? Is it run this magic loop until something happens? Is there anything you can do?
I would be honest with people and say, some patience is required. You know, at this level, there is some notion of do we need a director? Do we need a vice president? Do we have a challenge at that level that needs that person? And so promotions at this level, I often teach have two components. The first component is, can I eat and do that job? Am I qualified? Do I have the skills? But the second piece is do we have such a job that needs that? However, there is a lot you can do. A lot is in your control. And what is in your control is to start practicing those next level skills, start working with your leadership on where can I take on a strategic project? How can I become more of an inventor? I teach some about how to sort of systematically be inventive. It's not pure magic. You know, Edison said it's what, 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration.
You can learn the 99% and the 1% isn't as hard then. So you start showing those next level traits. And as I describe it most succinctly, how do you make yourself the person who will be chosen out of the eight? And you can be chosen, there are several ways to move up. Your boss can leave or be let go. They can be promoted to another role.
But another way is I have several, I coach now and I have several clients recently. I was just talking to a client yesterday. Her two peers were let go. They were all the same level. Her two peers were let go and she was given their teams. And, you know, she expressed that her boss had been told, you have too many, you have too many senior managers for the size of your organization. We need to do some change in the organization. Clean house and put all your people under the folks who have potential.
Well, obviously she must be one of those people because she still has her job and has more people and more to do. And unfortunately, her peers are shopping for new employment. So be that person. And that's where the magic loop comes in. Be that person. I was just talking actually to a senior PM leader who pointed out that with this kind of lean environment of a lot of flattening of orgs and a lot of layoffs, this is becoming increasingly hard, exactly what you're describing. There's just less spots because companies are running more lean.
And so you just kind of have to wait. I think part of this advice you just shared, which is the classic, do the job before you have the job. Makes all the sense in the world because once people see that you can do it, obviously they will feel a lot more comfortable putting you in that position. And they'll be looking, you know, I always remind people as a leader, I want the best people under me I can have. It's not that I don't wish to promote you. If you think about my job, this helps people, right?
I have selfish motivation to promote you. A lot of people think like, oh, the boss is there holding me down. Well, maybe some bosses are, but why wouldn't I want stronger, more capable, direct reports? Why wouldn't I want people under me who can do more of my job? Frankly, that's the only way I can do less of my job. Plus this pressure you're always getting from your reports like, hey, I'm like, ready to get promoted. Is this time yet? You mentioned this word inventiveness and I was just listening to Jeff Bezos on Lex Friedman.
And I don't know if you heard this, but he, Jeff Bezos described himself most as an inventor more than anything else that he does. Is that something that you think about? Is that influenced by Jeff Bezos anyway, that idea of being an inventor as a leader? I'll say a couple of things about that. First, I know you talked to my old boss, Bill Carr, who were working backwards. What I don't know is if he shared with you that after he published it, he actually realized there was a better title.
He wishes that he had called the book, The Invention Machine. Because what Jeff was trying to do with Amazon was create the most inventive company, the company that would systematically out invent others. And so while working backwards is a great title, Bill and Jeff think they should have called it The Invention Machine. When I joined Amazon, I did not think of myself as an inventor, but I saw that we had these leadership principles think big and invent and simplify that pushed on that.
And I said, I'm in trouble, I don't know how to do this. And I sat down and thought about that, like, what am I gonna do? It seems like that's required. And I figured out how to become systematically inventive. So I now hold over 70 patents as one benchmark of inventiveness. And they were all created during my 15 years at Amazon. And the way I did that, inventiveness actually isn't that hard.
I teach about this. And to invent systematically, first you do need to be somewhat of an expert in whatever area you wanna invent. So like, Lenny, if you and I say, let's get together and we're gonna invent cancer drugs. We have the problem that we're neither of us as far as I know is a biologist, a doctor. We don't have the right background. We don't know what we're doing. We would just be fumbling around, I guess with a bathtub full of chemicals hoping, it's probably not gonna work out that well.
So you have to be something of a knowledgeable expert. But then the second thing people don't do is they don't spend dedicated time actually thinking. They feel like, oh, invention is just gonna come to me. When I wanna invent, I get away from all my devices, I go in a room with the problem I have and I force myself to actually concentrate on what do I know and how can I invent? And the most straightforward way to invent is not to somehow come up with something completely new, but instead to put together two things that exist.
And so my example of this, I have a patent I talk about a lot for a drone delivery for Amazon, but the drone doesn't fly from the warehouse. Instead, a truck with no top drives slowly around the neighborhood and the drones go back and forth from the truck. As opposed to the driver stopping at every house, you can have four or six drones hitting everything in the neighborhood. And the way I came up with this idea is one day I was thinking about drones and delivery, but I loved military history. And so I was thinking also about an aircraft carrier. And I was thinking like, is there a way to have an aircraft carrier for drones? And from that, it was very quick for the light bulb to go on and say, well, what about a truck?
And so I am this patent and we haven't seen this become reality yet. I'm waiting for my idea to become part of Amazon's drone delivery system, but I think ultimately it will. That is badass. I'm imagining returns come back to the truck using that rope thing that just captures them with that little hook. Yeah, well, there's no reason, you know, same thing. When you want to return something as opposed to taking it to the UPS store or whatever, you just put it on your porch and then on your phone on your app, you know, maybe you take a picture of it so that the drone can recognize the box or you put it in a designated spot and you push a button and the drone takes your return away. Like, yes, there's no reason. Don't wait for that. And it takes your dog back and it sometimes all part of it. I'm not too heavy, thank you. My dog's not. There's like an owl in our backyard that we sometimes, or he's gonna come grab our dog.
On this idea of invention, this is really interesting. I didn't plan to talk about this, but for someone, like say, a PM on a team that wants to get better at invention, innovation, big thinking, is there a practice you find helpful here? Like, is it block off two hours, get a pen and paper and just think about it the specific two adjacent things working together? So that's part of the process is put in dedicated time. The interesting thing I would say is you don't mean that much time. Two hours is great, but you only need two hours once a month. People think invention takes all this time.
The thing is, once you have one good idea, it often takes years to express that. So you had the idea to have a newsletter. I know some of the history of your newsletter. You've been working on the expression of that idea for years now. Jeff and Amazon had ideas like, let's have prime shipping. Well, prime is still getting better and still being worked on. It's a 20-some-year-old idea. You know, the Kindle, a decades-old idea now, still getting better. So the point here is you don't need very many good ideas to be seen as tremendously inventive.
Like Elon Musk, Tesla, he can kind of like dust off his hands. I mean, like I am now, you know, an Edison-like inventor. So he keeps doing it, but you don't need that many inventions. This touches on something else Jeff Bezos shared on the podcast that most of his innovation and work is an optimizing phase. It's not the, here's the idea. It's the making it cheaper and better and faster. And that's where most of the good stuff comes from.
Like in this point of Tesla, Elon had this idea and now the hard work is actually making it scalable and cheap enough for people to use, not just like an electric car. With the idea of Jeff saying that invention is really a lot of the incremental optimization, I completely agree with that, that to invent well, you need a base idea, but then there's so much of the work is making that idea real. And again, Prime is a great example of this.
The Amazon Prime program was a great example of, okay, we want fast-free shipping. We want this program. That was a one-time idea that they did build, but now Prime has expanded. First, it was two day in the US, then one day in the US, now it's same day in the US, but also they added Prime Video, Prime Music, Prime Gaming. There's actually something like 25 things you get free with Prime. Most people have no idea because you get free photo storage. And this ongoing list and all of that is that incremental optimization to make it better, better, better, better.
And of course, Jeff's goal, which you probably heard him say, was to make Prime and no-brainer to where, you would be irresponsible, really, not to be a member. I know you have an awesome Jeff Bezos story that I want to get to, but before we do that, one more question along this line of career advice and progression. So I read somewhere that you've interviewed over 2,500 people over the course of your career. And so kind of going back to the beginning of a career, or at least getting a job, what have you found is most helpful in standing out as a candidate when you're interviewing and just essentially getting hired? What advice do you have for people that may be going through an interview process right now? There's a lot of evidence that suggests that the number one and two factors in any interview are appearance and enthusiasm. And it doesn't mean you have to be beautiful, but show up somewhere looking like you're interested in the job, not in your pajamas. And most importantly, be enthusiastic. People want to work with people that want to work with them. So if you seem very judgmental of the company and like you have to sell me on it, you're going to turn them off. I look at every interview of whether or not I really want this job, I might have decided I don't want the job. I still want the offer. And so I come to any interview I do, leaned in and talking about how excited I am to be a part of this opportunity and what I know about the company. Beyond those cosmetics, the biggest thing I see, particularly at higher levels, is people talk about what they have done, but not why it mattered. They don't talk about the impact. See, a leader is not hiring someone to just do work. They're hiring someone because they have a problem or a need. And so if you can show them, look, here's the things I've done that have made a difference. Here's the things I've done that have helped my past employers where I've had an impact. So I didn't just do work, that makes you a worker.
Someone who has an impact is more of a leader. And leader doesn't need to mean people manager, just a higher level, right? That I have done something that solved the big problem and here's how it changed the company or customer outlook. That's what I'm looking for in an interview is are you bringing me an understanding of the business that shows you contributed to the business or are you just telling me how hard you worked? Awesome. On that first piece, now that most interviews I imagine are over Zoom in terms of enthusiasm and looking professional. Is there anything you've found that people may not be thinking about in those two buckets? Oh yeah, you know, show the person full-time dedication. So unless you really don't have any choice, don't take an interview from a car, don't have your camera off. You know, I contact this still a real thing. Body language is still a real thing. Gestures like I'm making now with my hands. They're part of your presentation. And so be fully present and try to project through the camera a little bit of I'm excited to be a part of this and I appreciate the opportunity. You know, I often tell people the best way to prep for an interview might be a good night's sleep and a pot of coffee. That being fully engaged and energetic is a huge lever. Awesome. And I think basically the feedback there is don't over-obsess with the content. There's a lot of value in just how you come across. Yeah, 100%.
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Now let's take a little trip to failure corner. This is something that I do more and more on this podcast. Talk about people's failures in their career and their learnings. And you have a great story of failing the great Jeff Bezos and surviving to tell the tale. Could you share that story? I do. You know, it's both like a highlight and a low light. So I had been at Amazon about six years. I had become a director and I was responsible for launching Amazon App Store. And so we were building an Android-based App Store to go on Google phones and eventually on the Kindle tablets. And we got to launch day. And at that time, Jeff used to write a letter introducing new products. He would write a letter that said, Dear Customers, Today Amazon's proud to launch Blah Blah. And it's got these great features. And I hope you really enjoy it. Thanks, Jeff. And we would take down all the sales stuff on www.amazon.com. And that letter would fill the whole screen.
So he had written a Jeff letter. And this Jeff letter emphasized a particular feature of our product that he really liked. So that something that made it a little different. And that specific thing was we had a button called Test Drive that you could click on and it would open the app in a simulator in your web browser. So you could check out the app and interact with it before putting it on your phone. So he thought this was really cool. And he was all about it. Well, my team had built all this technology. We had Test Drive working. It was kind of a hard piece of technology to think about simulating any of thousands of arbitrary apps. And we worked all night to launch it. And it wasn't quite working. At 6 AM, we were still debugging. Now, you know engineers very well. And I'm sure most of your listeners know about engineers, even if that's not their discipline.
We always think we're this close to finding the last bug. So about 6.15 AM, I get a message from Jeff that says, hey, I woke up, where's the letter? Because it was supposed to go live at 6 AM, right after the markets in New York would have opened at 9 AM Eastern. And he says, where's the letter? And I write him back and I say, well, we're working on a few problems. But what I'm thinking in my head is getting a shower, getting a shower. I just need 20 minutes, getting a shower. For Jeff to get in the shower. Yeah. And like 30 seconds later, I have an email back that says, what problems? And at this point, I have to start explaining. And, you know, I end up explaining that we're having a problem with a database. And we're debugging this database problem. And he's like, wait, there's a database in your design? We're trying to eliminate all Oracle databases and move to AWS. Why do you even have this? And, you know, he's just getting more and more frustrated and angry. And he starts copying in my boss and my boss's boss, who's with Jeff Wilkie, the CEO of Retail. And they start asking me questions. And it's just this snowballing, you know, but like 7.30 in the morning, Jeff is clearly angry. And there's this list of other people waking up and feeling like, well, Jeff is angry. So my job is to be even more angry. And it's just raining in on me. Oh, man.
So what did I do? The interesting is what do you do when, you know, when the future richest man in the world is mad at you? He wasn't quite the richest man in the world yet, but he was headed there. So the first thing I did was I owned it. I said, yes, it's not working. It's my fault. I will deal with it. I took ownership. And the second thing I did was start updating him very proactively and saying, here's where we are. Like 8 AM, this is exactly where we are. This is what we're going to do in the next hour. And this is when you'll get your next update. Like I will update you again at 9 AM. So here's our plan. And even though Jeff had sort of lost trust with me, like it's down and it's not right and I'm mad, given that he agreed with the plan, he was willing to give me 60 minutes. And then I would update him again and say, okay, this is what we've done and this is what we're going to do. And we'll update you again at 10 AM. So I was buying life one hour at a time.
Now, the other thing I did, and this is a good thing about Amazon, as more and more leaders got copied into this angry thread, they started reaching out in the back channel and saying, we've all been under Jeff's eye of Sauron. We know it's miserable. What can we do to help? And essentially, Andy Jassy's organization, which was AWS at that time, and his CTO, a guy named Werner Vogels, said, you're having a database problem. Let's get you some principal engineers from the AWS database team. And these principal engineers showed up at 9 AM roughly. And they looked at our design. We had made some fundamental mistakes in our database usage. And they said, you know, it's too complicated to fix this. We're just going to give you like 500 AWS machines so that your crappy design will run anyway. Like that's the immediate fix. And I'm like, okay, well, I guess if you have 500 databases lying around because you're AWS, this is a great solution and that's what they did. So the next step is we fix the problem. A bunch of us work together very hard to get the problem all fixed. Now it took all day and Jeff was still frustrated because the opportunity to sort of control the messaging and the media by having his letter up had passed. People had noticed our launch and the articles had been written. And so Jeff was still very mad. So we fixed the problem, but Jeff now had no trust in us. The weekend went by, he was using the system like looking for bugs because he's like, oh, this team's not reliable now. Ethan's not reliable. I better check it myself. So you have the CEO checking on him. And he found a problem and emailed me like Saturday night at nine o'clock. Like I was doing this and it broke. And luckily I was able to tell him exactly what happened by like 930.
Anyway, the next part of the story is that following week, I had a meeting with him on another topic. So I was part of this small group that was trying to figure out how to build a competing browser. You may not remember, but Amazon had a browser called Silk for a while. And I was invited to this meeting, but I wasn't a critical participant. So you may know this idea from Scrum where they say some people are pigs and some are chickens and the chickens are sort of observers. I was a chicken in this meeting.
And that turns out to be a great analogy because I was thinking, should I chicken out and not go? Like I could skip this meeting with the CEO who's angry at me. But when I had that thought, I realized, you know, if I can't face the CEO, I'd better pack my desk. Like that's the end. So I went to this meeting early and Jeff always sat in the same chair. So I knew where he would sit when he came in. So I sat down right next to his chair and I thought, I don't know, let's find out. And so the meeting goes by.
And of course, in my mind, Jeff is totally ignoring me, like not even looking at me. But I think that's just me projecting because remember I wasn't central to the meeting. So at the end of the meeting, everybody gets up to leave, he turns and looks at me and says, so how are you doing? I bet it's been a hard week. And I thought, oh, okay, we're gonna talk. And I said, yeah, you know, I just sort of answered him with, of course it's been hard, but here's what we're doing and here's what we're gonna do in the future. And we had a very human conversation and I didn't believe Jeff would have forgotten that I let him down, but it was clear he had forgiven it. So I was still gonna have to, as it turns out, re-ear his trust, but the thing I did that's key for people to learn from is it's really easy to flame.
He had been flaming me, right? Writing angry emails, angry emails are easy. Sitting three feet from someone and being angry with them face to face is hard. And when faced with, I can either start ranting at this person who reports to me, or I can say something nice, he chose to say something nice and that rebuilt our relationship. So the end of the story is two years later, I was promoted to vice president. So even though I had failed the CEO on this very public launch, where he was very definitely mad at me, I re-earned the trust, I showed I had learned the lessons of how to launch more reliably without outages and I was promoted. And so I share that story because I think it, what I want people to understand is if I can get away with publicly failing one of the richest, the most famous inventors on earth and then get promoted and finish my career at Amazon very successfully, you can dig out of any hope.
You just have to manage it, right? That is an amazing story. Okay, so there's a lot of lessons that I wanna pull on here. One is just if you get caught in a situation like this or something completely fails, what I took down as you were talking, one is admit, yes, this is a huge problem, own it. This is not like don't try to deflect. Two is the way I describe what you did here is something I call prioritizing and communicating where you prioritize here's what we need to do and then communicate, here's our priorities. And I love that you have this like every hour, here's the latest, here's the latest. So make it, make people understand you are on it and you will continue to keep them updated because I imagine one of the worst fears is I have no idea what's happening here, I'm gonna go in and start micromanaging. You're exactly right.
I'm trying to hold off micromanagement. I'm trying to give them like, okay, I believe with this and I can wait an hour and then I can wait another hour because that team seems to be honest. So I'm trying to rebuild trust one hour at a time and avoid having three or four levels of management all come in and start helping. And then I love this other piece of advice of kind of meet them in person, try to take it off offline essentially, which I know you did later, but that's such a good point that it's hard to be as mad and angry and like flamey in person, right? People are just gonna be like, okay, I get it, let's try to figure this out. Amazing, is there anything else?
Those are the three that I took away just like if you're caught in that situation in the moment, is there anything else that you found to be really helpful? I mean, work hard and fast, right? You do have to fix the problem. My team had been up all night. I had to start sending people home to sleep and shifts. We had to pull in all this help. And so it was a very hard weekend. When you have a mistake, it's on you to pull out the stops even if it's uncomfortable to recover from it. And again, this is not the time to be like, well, it's the weekend now and my team will hit it Monday. Like that would have been like, I'd have been out the door so fast. I would have had like the comic, Wily Coyote Skidmarks as I bumped down the street.
So I would say that's important. It's just, it's part of showing ownership. The other part of this is something I went through for a while when I was starting to become a more senior leader is I had a lot of imposter syndrome. And this fear that if I messed up, everything would crumble. People would see that I don't actually know what I'm doing and I'm not really ready for this level of seniority. And so there's a sphere of like one big mistake. It's over. Clearly, this was an example of a huge mistake and it was not over for you. Is there any lessons there that you take away of just like you can mess up and still do well, even if it's this level of mistake?
I think a lot of people in my position would have quit. They would have let the shame. I was just a little bit bullheaded where I'm like, yeah, I messed up, but like I'm still, I know I'm still a good person and a good worker. Yes, I made a mistake, but I'm gonna move on. You know, part of the story I haven't told that you might enjoy is I mentioned that Jeff Wilkie was Jeff's number two at that point, Jeff Bezos number two person. And he was my skip level. Well, he during this process, he came physically into our offices and he wanted to talk to me. And my manager who was vice president said, hey, Jeff, this is my team. I own it. If you have any criticisms, say it to me. You know, you don't need to talk to my team. And Jeff Wilkie said to my boss, whose name was Paul, Paul, that's excellent leadership. I really appreciate what you're doing. Please step out of the way. I wanna talk to Ethan. You're doing a great job, Paul. Now step aside and then he kind of read me the riot acts.
And the rest of that funny story is I was so happy with how well my meeting with Jeff Bezos went. I patted myself on the back and like, I'm gonna go face Jeff Wilkie now. I'm gonna schedule a meeting with him and do the same thing. You know, I've got this down. So I go to meet with Jeff Wilkie, figuring like I'm gonna run the same playbook. I'm gonna look him in the eye and all will be forgiven. Jeff Wilkie looks at me and says, Ethan, when you launched this, did you know you were gambling with the result? Did you know it might not work? And I said, yes, we had a media commitment to launch on that day and I thought shooting for the date was more important than perfect certainty. And he said, well, two things. First, you were wrong. You were wrong to prioritize date over our reputation. You let Amazon down in public and that was a mistake. He said, second though, at least you knew you were gambling. If you hadn't known you were gambling, we'd be discussing your departure. And I'm like, okay, here I thought I was rolling in this meeting, like I'm gonna run my relationship playbook and he's evaluating whether or not to keep me.
The bullheadedness is even after he had told me he had been considering firing me. I'm like, well, he isn't. So I'm just gonna go forward. And a lot of that stubbornness of sure I made a mistake, but like I'm not gonna live in shame about it. I think is what people can take away. I think a lot of people feel they're more dead in the water than they are. Because everybody makes mistakes, right? Jeff's, I mean, Jeff and Firephone, which, you know, it's like his, that'll be an albatross around his neck. You know, Jeff and Firephone will be a phrase of anybody who knows Amazon for the rest of his life. Yeah, we talked about on the Working Backwards podcast and why did working backwards work for the Firephone?
We talked about it. I love that these quotes and lines are so seared in your brain you can remember it like word for word exactly what they were. I've relived that moment many times. And then just along the lines of working right out of the hole is the, is essentially what you did just succeed for two years and do great. And that's, that was the key there. No, I think I did have to learn. I've always been sort of an operational cowboy, meaning I like to go fast and loose. I prioritize speed. And I really had to step back and say, okay, Amazon, Amazon at this level and scale doesn't like that. So I've taught myself a new phrase which was fear the New York Times headline. Like be aware that if Amazon is down, it goes up on every news website immediately. And so if Amazon has some kind of mistake, it's on Wall Street Journal and CNN. And so as a leader, I had to think is what I'm doing going to generate a New York Times headline.
Cause if it is, I'd better be really careful. And that's, that's what I taught myself is like, you can't be paralyzed, but you do, I taught my whole team like we don't want to be in the New York Times for the wrong thing. And that was the lesson. Along the lines of lessons, last question here, just what's something that you took away from the way you approached it, that you shouldn't, should have changed or should have done differently, that you just, you've done differently since, you know, obviously like don't, like you mentioned this idea of don't promise a date that you're not that certain you're going to hit, I guess, is there anything along those lines? I have two things here. First, Amazon loved in the past, they love surprise launches. They love the idea of we're going to be quiet, quiet, quiet, because basically it was a reaction, I think, to Microsoft where they felt Microsoft always talked about what was coming and then pushed the dates back. And so there was this whole thing about vaporware.
And Amazon wanted to be the other way, which is we won't say anything and then it will just be there. The problem I came to say is the biggest thing I learned with surprise launches is that you're surprised by what doesn't work. And so I shifted the approach to let's do a lot of beta testing. We always, even if others don't agree, fight and say, you're right, we're not going to have a surprise launch. Some of our beta testers, even if they sign NDAs, are going to leak and that's a better outcome than launching something that doesn't work. That's one lesson. The other lesson is this thing that broke in front of Jeff Bezos, ultimately it was a new college graduate engineer who wrote that code. And he had been left alone to write part of our user interface, but he had written it in such a way that it didn't scale.
Now, we didn't give him any help or oversight. We left him on his own because we were busy focusing on other pieces of the problem. And shortly after the disaster, she left the company. And the mistake I made was not reaching out to him and really reassuring him of like, yes, you wrote the bug, but that's not on you. Like the system failed you and we don't see you, bugs happen. So the thing I regret in this whole thing is not realizing that even though no one in the team ever yelled at him or whatever, he knew it was his bug and he obviously saw me and others sort of taking a beating. And so he left and I wish he hadn't done that. And I wish more than that I had stepped in. I didn't realize what he was feeling.
It's interesting the lesson there isn't catch that person sooner and notice these links in the chain that may break, but it's more just be there for that human that have this challenge that people may not be focusing on. Because we lost a good person and he probably felt very bad about it and we all feel bad when we make mistakes that can be prevented, but he felt undue responsibility. I think and that I really regret. This is actually a really good example of ownership. You mentioned this term ownership and that connects to Amazon has these leadership principles. I think there's 14 of them. One of them is around ownership and apparently you helped craft the actual language for that principle, which I think is a huge deal within Amazon.
I imagine very few people have a say over how to define and describe and say these principles. Could you just talk about this principle that you contributed to, how it came to be that you helped actually write it? Amazon is now kind of on its fourth version in my mind. Maybe there's more, but it's fourth major revision of its leadership principles over its 25 plus year history. And when it was going from version one to version two, Jeff and his leadership team sat down together and actually in version one, there were three different lists. They were like leadership principles in core values and something else I don't remember. And they were like, three lists is stupid. Let's make one list. Well, ownership, the term had been a part of one of those lists, but when they merged everything, they took it out.
And this guy, Jeff Wilkie, I mentioned, the number two and the leader of retail, he brought a bunch of us, a bunch of his directors. He brought the proposed list to us in a meeting and said, hey, this is the proposed new version. Do you have any comment? And we all sat around and talked to this, I said, where's ownership? Ownership is missing. So we told him, we said, look, ownership is missing. We think it should be there. And he said, well, why don't you propose a draft? And so about a half dozen of us sat around and rost out a draft of how we felt ownership should be written.
And I propose these six words, which are, an owner never says, that's not my job. Maybe that's seven words. Um, so I propose this specific language as a part of it. And we sent off this draft. And months go by, we hear nothing. And then one day the leadership principles are announced. And ownership is back in. It's been modified, but that an owner never says, that's not my job, is a part of the leadership principle. And it's remained to this debt.
And what I love about that is it's probably the most, because Amazon has, you know, one and a half million employees who live by these leadership principles, it's probably the most impactful thing I've ever written. Wow. So those seven words are the most impactful thing you've ever written. I love that. And I totally get that. I'm really looking at the principles right now. And it comes right at the end of that principle, willing to the 14 leadership principles. Is there another principle that you really love or one or two?
I don't know. It's probably hard to pick your favorites. I'm a huge proponent of bias for action. Bias for action says speed matters in business. And, you know, many decisions are reversible. And so it's important to go faster. And I think people don't understand that in a competitive environment, being right is good, but being quick is necessary, because if there are 10 startups working on an idea, some of them will gamble and they'll make bad gambles and they'll go out of business. But some of them will gamble and make an early bet and be right. And if you're not moving quickly, you'll be beaten by the people who maybe got lucky. And so you've got to have a process that values speed.
Values, what can we do today? What can we commit to today? So I really like bias for action. Now that is what got me in trouble with Jeff, right? I was willing to gamble. So it has to be in balance, but that's my other favorite. I was, again, that Jeff Bezos' interview with Lex Freeman, he was talking about how with his, with Blue Origin, his, with the way Amazon, he thought about Amazon as customer obsession. That was like the core goal and differentiator of Amazon with Blue Origin, he wanted to be decisiveness.
It's basically leaning into this bias for action, like fully, which is really interesting. I saw that part of the interview and I thought, wow, you know, that's exactly right. Because again, rockets blow up and they have people on them. Like you've got to get it right. But you also have to keep moving because there's always one more thing you can safety test. So how do you balance it? Yeah, it's interesting. With rockets, if like that's the one that you pick, it's a pretty bold to be all move forward kind of thing.
I'm reading, so this principle again, going back to ownership. So you basically suggested this phrase, you didn't hear anything and all of a sudden it becomes part of the whole thing. Did that feel weird that they never told you or I don't know if they give you credit for that or it's like, no, it's great. Yeah, you know, I wouldn't even claim credit for it except I kept a copy of the email that says Ethan thinks it should say blah. Like I have the written proof because it's not about the credit. I'm very happy and proud that those words were kept.
But, you know, in Amazon, I doubt if Jeff knows I wrote those words, you know, it's not like I've ever told him like, hey, do you know you kept my words? Like that's not appropriate. It's just a fun anecdote. And it does show, I guess, something people can learn them that though, you can influence way up in a company if your ideas are good.
You know, and also when we challenged, Jeff Wilkie was a strong opinionated leader who didn't necessarily always love being challenged. And so when we first told him like, well, we think you're missing ownership, he was like, you know, like, you're staying at the whole S team can't get its leadership principles right? I mean, it wasn't exactly that way, but he was very much like, well, is this really necessary? Why do you think it's necessary?
And his challenge to us to write it was kind of framed as like, well, if you're so sure it's good, show us, right? And so, you know, but again, I'm stubborn and I'm like, all right, let's write it. And we did. That's funny. That's not a great example of leadership where he's like, hey guys, I have, I need your feedback on this thing, but like, no, don't actually, don't actually tell me anything's wrong.
Well, yeah, yeah, I mean, for a bunch of directors to kind of critique the work of people two levels higher, he wanted it, but you know, then he's sort of naturally resistant to it of we're kind of, you know, poking at his baby. It's unlikely that there's something huge missing and it turns out they were.
Yeah. And I guess just on these principles, people may not know this, but this is where disagreeing commit comes from. It's actually have backbone disagreeing commit. We talked about this on the podcast about working backwards. I also love leaders are right a lot. That comes up a lot.
And I love that just like to be successful, you need to be right. You can just, you know, project confidence. You can't just be in a bunch of meetings and ship things. You need to be right to be. And that one's been rewritten to carefully say, you know, it's always interesting. What is the history of the edits? Which you wish you could see the edit history on these.
That one got modified to say leaders, something about leaders work to dis, actively work to dis confirm their beliefs. And the key there is it was trying to get at the idea that you've got to be very open and always be questioning, yes, I think I'm right. But what's the new evidence? What am I learning? What's changing? And in fact, that active, it also says they seek diverse perspectives.
And that was a way of getting at what's called, you know, DEI, diversity, equity and inclusion. That's a subtle nod towards, if everyone in the room is a 50 year old white man, you may not really be making the right overall decision for Amazon's customer base. You may be making the one for like, 50 year old white suburban Seattleites. Right. And so it's just some of these, every word in those has been studied as an invisible word inside the company. Amazing.
Okay. Let's move on to the final area. I wanted to spend a little time on, and this is called contrarian corner. I'm curious if you have any contrarian opinions about, things that basically that other people believe that you don't believe, something you see that many people don't see. Is there anything that comes to mind?
Yeah. I think a place where I'm currently very contrarian is the return to office movement. You know, many leaders at my level appear or publicly favor the need to get back into the office potentially full time. And I'm contrarian on this because of innovation. Specifically, I looked it up, you can check my facts on Wikipedia.
The first purpose built office, the first building ever built to be an office was built in 1726 in London. And so we're about 300 years into learning how to use offices well. And what that means is, offices aren't gonna get much better. Like, what's the last major thing you can think of that got better in offices? You might say, well, open offices, but a lot of people say that's not even a good idea.
These big rows of desks and loud pits. With working from home, we've only been doing that for a few years since the pandemic began, and at all since the internet started 20 years ago, which one is likely to have more opportunity for improvement? There's so many things we haven't explored with remote work.
And I think the people who say, oh, back to the office, it's because we know it works? Well, we know what it is, but I have so much more faith in the opportunity to improve the remote experience. And so I think long-term, it's going to triumph. The one other place where I'm a huge contrarian is doing business on a handshake. I understand companies need lawyers and I have an attorney for certain things, but I coach people, most of the people I coach, there's no NDA in place, there's no contract in place, they pay me through PayPal and I do good coaching for them.
Like, I think too much of the world is contract-driven. And we've lost the idea of your word being your bond and like you can actually trust me to follow through on my commitments. And I'm a contrarian there. I realize I will occasionally get burnt. Someone will behave in a way. So they'll let me down. But I think when we're always suspicious of people, that's a high cost. And the other place I'm contrarian is just doing business on faith. There reminds me, Sam Altman has a similar philosophy of just like trust people and assume it'll all be okay. Sometimes you'll get burned, but on balance, it'll end up being much better for you and everyone around you. I didn't know that Sam had said that, but I strongly agree with it. Yeah. Although he has some challenges recently, I don't know if it's working. But it ended up great for him. So anyway, okay, we've actually reached our very exciting lightning round. Before we get there, is there anything else you wanted to touch on or share or leave listeners with? No, I've really enjoyed this conversation. I can talk about careers forever. And I love doing that. But I think we've covered a ton today that will really help people. So I'm good. Let's hit the lightning round.
All right, with that, we reached our very exciting lightning round. Are you ready? I'm ready. Ethan, what are two or three books that you recommended most to other people? Two or three books. My number one recommendation is a book called Decisive. It's by Chip and Dan Heath, and it's about the science of making better decisions. The reason I recommend it so much is it will make your career better because leaders are decision makers, but also your personal life. So I apply it at least as much in my personal life as I do in my professional life. My second book, my second most recommended book, is Leadership and Self-Deception, much less known than Decisive, a little bit harder to approach. It's by a group, a research group called the Arbenger Institute, and it's about how to, the self-deception is we cause a lot of our interpersonal problems while blaming them on others. And it walks through how are you part of the problem you're having with somebody else and what can you do about it?
The third and final book was recently brought to me by someone I work with that you know, Jason Yoom. That book is the almanac of Novel Robicon. And Novel Robicon is an angel investor responsible for Angel's List, but what I love about that book is he has a recipe, he really boils down how to be successful while loving what you do, and he says no one can be a better version of you. Don't try to copy me and be, oh I'm going to be like Ethan or I'm going to be like Lenny. Instead, figure out what you uniquely do best that you love because no one can copy you being you. And that's your defensible sort of career value. And I really like that. Minslma.
Yeah, Novel has so many insightful messages. And you can read all these on his Twitter, well like this Twitter, and someone just made a book out of his tweets basically. That's such an interesting thing. Yes, that's right. Awesome. What is a favorite recent movie or TV show you really enjoyed? So I grew up on a farm and so all the Taylor Sheridan, you know, 1923 and Yellowstone, and I, all of those series of, we've watched everything he's put out. You know, we do kind of laugh like wow, are you familiar with Yellowstone at all? Absolutely. A lot of death. Yeah, we, at one point my wife and I were watching it, we would start betting like, so the episode is starting. How many people will die in this episode? You know, like this ranch in Montana, but yet somehow, you know, they're always killing people. How does this work? That's, that's what your life was like is what I'm hearing.
Favorite interview question that you like to ask candidates? I think my favorite interview question is tell me about a time where you needed to disagree with your management, where you needed to stand up or, you know, fight for a position against higher leadership or people in power, because I think that's really hard to do. I'm normally interviewing leaders and I think, you know, having a bunch of people who just say yes isn't helpful. You need people, you know, as you said, have backbone, disagree and commit. So that's what I'm normally looking for. Awesome. Is your favorite product you recently discovered that you really live? It's, it's silly, but my favorite product that I discovered recently is the Chucket, which you used to whip a ball for your dog like a quarter mile. It basically extends your arm and it's just fine to send a ball soaring like way further than you could ever throw it. And you feel like, wow, look at me. Like I'm a major league pitcher. It's because I have this three foot lever arm and I understand physics. You know, if we look at tech products, there's so many I love. It's too easy to say chat GPT and stuff. So I won't go there.
Awesome. My dog does not love chasing balls. I haven't had a reason to buy that, but I've never thought about just the joy of flinging a ball really far. Do you have a favorite life motto that you often come back to you, share with folks, find useful in work or in life? I happen to be a Christian and the motto that I think about the most is to whom much has been given from him much will be required. And so I think a lot about what is my social responsibility? What, you know, I've been very lucky. I grew up on a farm in Ohio. Now I wasn't a farm boy. My father was a chemist, but I grew up, you know, in like upper middle class settings and I've ended up being extremely successful, able to retire from my job at 50 to kind of coach and teach. What do I owe to pay forward? So those words are, you know, obviously ancient spiritual texts, but they're the ones I take away and think the most about what's my responsibility. As an example of someone that to whom much has been given, but because he's worked so hard, Jeff Bezos is starting a space business as you know, if you had the chance to go to space, would you, would you go? Well, I of course saw his interview where he talked about the safety and the conversation he had to have with his mother. I would like to go to space. I'm not willing to pay what I think the current tickets are, but yeah, I would take the risk. So, you know, what's the risk of that ride? One in 100, one in 50, even more that you won't come back. I would probably take the gamble. So you'd be in the early adopter. Like where along that curve would you be? Early adopter laggard?
Well, I'm old enough that I remember when the challenge or space shuttle exploded. And I said, you know, I would get on the next one. And I said, they're never going to be more careful than the next one. So I'll get on the next one. So, you know, I think I would get on any one I was offered because of the chance. Unlike Jeff who claims he wasn't scared, I would probably be really terrified, at least it liftoff, right? So, I mean, while you're up there, it's great. Everything either goes wrong going up or coming down. It's not the middle.
Ethan, I think we're going to help a lot of people with their career. I think we're going to help them work through failure, become better owners. Thank you so much for being here. Two final questions. Work in folks find you online if they want to reach out. Also, just share what you do now in case people could use that help. And then how can listeners be useful to you? So the best place to find me online, I do all my writing on LinkedIn. It's where the professional community is. So Ethan, Amazon LinkedIn, my actual handler is eating Evan's VP from my history as a vice president. That's the best place to find me. I do have a sub stack newsletter. I do teach through the Maven platform, but all of those are linked off LinkedIn. And really how readers help me, they comment on what I write because I miss things. I am one person's perspective. So I actually have a process where I take in all the comments people write, all the different perspectives, all the different exceptions or special cases or examples of the different exceptions or special cases or examples. And that's how I improve my own thinking is I read every comment and think, okay, what did I miss? What could I have said better? How can I incorporate this if I ever talk about this again? Just to give you another opportunity to plug the stuff you do now. What do you help people with in case people could value, could use the stuff that you offer. You said you coach, you have a course, what sort of stuff. I focus on two topics, career development. So how do you grow in your career, the whole magic loop and how do you attain promotion or attain a new role or raise if that's your goal. And then leadership specifically, I teach a course that's been very popular called Stuck at Senior Manager, Breaking Through to Executive, which is how to get out of that sort of stuck. I'm working really hard. I'm pretty good. I'm managing 25 or 50 people. But how do I get to the big chair? How do I get to the division level leadership? And what do I need to change? It's that whole what got you here won't get you there. And I love to see people succeed at that. You know, people write me back and say, I did get a job. I did get promoted. I did get a raise. And that's, that's my fulfillment.
Amazing. Ethan, thank you so much for being here. Thank you, Lenny. And I got to say, you are very good at this. You're so smooth and you just do a great job interviewing. It's been really been a pleasure. I really appreciate that. And so are you. Thank you. Bye everyone.
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