How To Make The Most Out of Your 20s

以下是内容的中文翻译： 这份记录稿记录了道尔顿和迈克尔讨论如何最大化个人潜力，并避免在二十几岁时常犯的错误，他们的观点来自他们自身的经历以及对他人观察。核心思想是围绕着有意识地构建这十年，以促进成长、韧性和未来的选择性。 讨论一开始就提到了“享乐跑步机”，指的是人们不断追求新的体验和物质，但获得的满足感却越来越低。他们批判了社交媒体，特别是Instagram的影响，在那里，精心策划的理想生活方式助长了不切实际的期望和一种不足感。演讲者认为，生活中“美好的事物”的数量是有限的，而“速通”式地获取它们可能会导致早期的幻灭，因为那些早早就取得物质成功的人可能会发现自己一生中剩下的时间都感到空虚。 他们破解“享乐跑步机”的主要策略是有意识地延迟满足。他们倡导逐步改进，而不是立即沉溺于他们收入所能负担得起的最豪华的体验。例如，他们建议大学毕业后的第一套公寓不应该比宿舍好太多，为未来的升级和进步感留下空间。这个原则适用于度假和汽车等物质财产。通过延迟享受最高级别的满足感，人们可以保持向上流动的动力，并防止过早倦怠。 另一个关键要素是在职业生涯早期做“最硬核的事情”。演讲者认为，之后变得温和比在一个舒适、不那么具有挑战性的职位上安定下来后变得雄心勃勃更容易。他们用医学或法律等要求严格的领域来举例说明这一点。虽然医生或律师之后可以选择强度较低的职位，但对于那些最初选择了一条不那么苛刻的道路的人来说，后来切换到更严格的道路更具挑战性。这种方法不局限于特定的职业。例如，一位有抱负的小说家应该在20多岁的时候成为一个硬核的作家，即使他们之后成为一个更悠闲的小说家。 道尔顿和迈克尔强调了在20多岁时寻求风险的重要性。他们将此与之后生活中由于抵押贷款、孩子和年迈的父母等责任而经常产生的规避风险心态形成对比。他们承认，社会和家庭的压力经常会阻止人们承担风险，而创业尤其被认为是高风险的。为了减轻这种恐惧，他们建议明确列出承担风险的最坏情况，并评估它是否真的像人们想象的那样可怕。然而，他们也承认，在某些情况下，风险可能不值得回报。 演讲者承认，父母的期望会极大地影响一个人的人生方向，尤其是在成年早期。对于20多岁的人来说，至关重要的是批判性地评估他们是在追求自己的目标，还是仅仅在遵循父母制定的计划。虽然父母的指导很有价值，但必须确保一个人的生活道路与他们的愿望相符。 道尔顿和迈克尔深入探讨了同伴群体对个人发展的深刻影响。他们强调，一个人的性格和信仰很大程度上是由他们花最多时间在一起的人塑造的。这种认识强调了有意识地管理自己的社交圈的重要性，寻找那些能激发成长、乐观和行动的人。他们承认，改变社交圈可能需要重大的生活改变，例如搬迁或更换工作，但他们认为潜在的好处大于挑战。他们还认为，真正的友谊将会持续下去，而改变朋友不一定是件让人感到糟糕的事情。 迈克尔提倡在20多岁的时候寻找长期关系。他反驳了安定下来会损害个人成长的观点，认为一个稳定的伴侣可以提供支持并加速个人发展。他认为，培养稳定的关系有助于长期的幸福和未来的家庭生活。 为了回应潜在的反驳，演讲者澄清说，他们的建议并非只针对有抱负的企业家。他们认为，有意为之、延迟满足和拥抱挑战的原则适用于任何寻求实现宏伟目标的人。他们承认，并非所有的机会之门总是敞开，他们希望能与那些感觉自己被困住的人对话。 演讲者还谈到了资源有限或背负巨额债务的人所面临的挑战。他们强调，虽然具体的机会可能无法获得，但努力最大化的原则仍然适用。即使在困难的情况下，人们也可以通过努力工作和决心来改善自己的处境。他们还强调了保持积极心态和将自己视为变革推动者的重要性。

The transcript features Dalton and Michael discussing strategies for maximizing one's potential and avoiding common pitfalls during their 20s, drawing from their experiences and observations of others. The core idea revolves around intentionally structuring the decade to foster growth, resilience, and future optionality. The discussion begins by addressing the "hedonic treadmill," the constant pursuit of new experiences and possessions that leads to diminishing returns and dissatisfaction. They critique the influence of social media, specifically Instagram, where curated portrayals of ideal lives fuel unrealistic expectations and a sense of inadequacy. The speakers argue that there's a finite number of "good things" in life and that a "speedrun" to acquire them can lead to early disillusionment, as individuals who achieve material success early on may find themselves unfulfilled with much life left to live. Their primary strategy for hacking the hedonic treadmill is the intentional delay of gratification. Rather than immediately indulging in the most luxurious experiences their income might allow, they advocate for incremental improvements. For instance, they suggest that the first apartment after college shouldn't be drastically nicer than a dorm room, leaving room for future upgrades and a sense of progress. This principle applies to vacations and material possessions like cars. By delaying the highest levels of indulgence, individuals maintain a sense of upward mobility and prevent early burnout. Another key element is doing the "most hardcore thing" early in one's career. The speakers argue that it's easier to mellow out later than to become ambitious after settling into a comfortable, less challenging role. They illustrate this point with examples like pursuing demanding fields like medicine or law. While a doctor or lawyer can later opt for less intensive roles, it's more challenging for someone who initially chose a less demanding path to later switch to a more rigorous one. This approach is not limited to specific professions. For example, an aspiring novelist should be a hardcore writer in their 20s, even if they become a more laid-back novelist later. Dalton and Michael emphasize the importance of being risk-seeking during one's 20s. They contrast this with the risk-averse mindset that often develops later in life due to responsibilities like mortgages, children, and aging parents. They acknowledge that societal and familial pressures often discourage risk-taking, with starting a business being perceived as particularly risky. To mitigate this fear, they suggest explicitly outlining the worst-case scenario of taking a risk and assessing whether it's truly as dire as perceived. However, they also acknowledge that under certain circumstances, the risk might not be worth the reward. The speakers acknowledge that parental expectations can significantly influence the direction of one's life, particularly during early adulthood. It's crucial for individuals in their 20s to critically evaluate whether they are pursuing their own goals or simply adhering to a plan established by their parents. While parental guidance can be valuable, it's essential to ensure that one's life path aligns with their aspirations. Dalton and Michael delve into the profound influence of peer groups on personal development. They highlight that a significant portion of one's personality and beliefs are shaped by the people they spend the most time with. This realization underscores the importance of intentionally curating one's social circle, seeking out individuals who inspire growth, optimism, and action. They acknowledge that altering one's social circle may require significant life changes, such as relocating or changing jobs, but they argue that the potential benefits outweigh the challenges. They also suggest that true friendships will endure and that changing friends isn't something to necessarily feel bad about. Michael advocates for seeking long-term relationships during one's 20s. Countering the notion that settling down is detrimental to personal growth, he argues that a stable partner can provide support and accelerate personal development. He believes that practicing stable relationships can contribute to long-term happiness and future family life. To address potential counterarguments, the speakers clarify that their advice is not exclusive to aspiring entrepreneurs. They believe that the principles of intentionality, delayed gratification, and embracing challenges are applicable to anyone seeking to achieve ambitious goals. They acknowledge that not all doors will always be open, and they seek to speak to people who feel as though they are stuck. The speakers address the challenges faced by individuals with limited resources or significant debt. They emphasize that while specific opportunities may be inaccessible, the principle of maximizing effort remains relevant. Even in difficult circumstances, individuals can strive to improve their situation through hard work and determination. They also highlight the importance of maintaining a positive mindset and viewing oneself as an agent of change.